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Jan 30, 2010
rbc
Are we spoiling our baby? How do I put her on a schedule?
My husband is wondering if we are kind of spoiling our 2 1/2 month old. She wasn't fussy ( she has her reflux "signals" but they are not the fussy type. They are more gagging, gasping for air, whimpering and sighs) now she's fussy, has this weird cry and wants to be held. What do you all think? We are first time parents and have no clue what we're doing. And the other thing- is it possible to put a reflux baby on a feeding/napping schedule? Until now, she just eats and sleeps whenever. Both are erractic and I can't plan anything or go very far. I appreciate any tips, recommendation thanks everyone RC
Jan 31, 2010
adelines mom
We were very fortunate to work with a baby nurse for two weeks when Adeline was born and she set the schedule for us. We gave her a bottle 6:30 a.m., 9:30 a.m., 12:30 p.m., 3:30 p.m., 6:30 p.m. 10:00 p.m. and 2:00 a.m. We eventually were able to drop the 2:00 a.m. feeding around eight months and then the 10:00 p.m. feeding around 11 months and at 20 MONTHS are are still doing the five bottles a day. Our daughter has really bad reflux and I am convinced that she had really bad colic too. Was not able to breast feed her. Froze three weeks worth of pumping and reintroduced with her bottle at seven months. We started feeding some solids at seven months with the 9:30 a.m. bottle. Eventually added solids to the 6:30 p.m. feeding and for the last month we have added solids at every 12:30 p.m. feeding too. Solids for Adeline, means purreed #2 baby food mixed with organic brown rice cereal or oatmeal. For the first eight months of her life we held her upright for 1 to 1 1/2 hours after EVERY bottle. You are not spoiling your baby! You have to do what you have to do. Adeline takes a nap (propped up on me, my husband or the babysitter) after the 9:30 a.m. bottle. She has to be propped up!!!! If you put her down, she will wake up and she gets no nap. She is up usually around 11:45 a.m. and stays awake until after the 3:30 p.m. bottle. Most of the time she will take another nap until about 5:30 p.m. and then down around 8:30 or 9:00 p.m. She sleeps in the bed with us now, propped up on a pillow or on me. It is not the most comfortable position for either one of us. Was having to get up between seven to 10 times a night to reposition her in the crib on the wedge and gave up and moved her into our bed. We keep Adeline on a TIGHT schedule, seven days a week. We don't make exceptions on the weekend. I truly think this has made a big difference with her and her ability to gain weight and thrive. I give her meds and supplements at exactly the same time each day. We are first time parents too at 42 and 53 and we are worn out! Hope this helps you. Please read Beth's book, The Reflux Book and another one that really helped us was Colic Solved when you get a chance. HA-HA! I would read one chapter a day. Good luck to you and hang in there.
Jan 31, 2010
b-girl
Mom to Jasmine aka: Jazz 01/24/2007
Dx with silent reflux at 8 months
FPIES, DGE, MSPI. Recently diagnosed with EC (Eosin. colitis and now Primary immune deficiency disease.
Also mom to Nathan. born Jan.20th, 2009, MPI . so far dx with reflux and has an extremely sensitibe GI system. Also dx with primary immune deficiency disease.
Sorry that you are going thru this. I feel that you cannot spoil a baby by holding them. Babies need to be held, but more importantly, if you think your baby is in pain, the need is even greater. IMO, no such thing as spoiling a baby with love. Good luck, babies with reflux can be exhausting. But we're hear to help!!!
Feb 07, 2010
jgbennett
Ginger Bennett
Mom to Stanton, 6/12/2008
dx with GERD at 7 weeks. dx with EE at 21 months
Past Life - Early Intervention Specialist and Eval Team Member
Being a new parent is hard and it's even harder when you have a baby in pain. My 19 month old still goes through spells where our "schedule" is just thrown out the window. From the books I read, babies aren't really ready for a schedule until around 3 or 4 months. That's when I really put together a loose schedule for us and it mainly revolved around feeding (which is frequent at our house). I love holding my little guy and don't regret for a minute that he needs me to!
Feb 08, 2010
debbieb
Debbie, Mom to:
Derek,10/29/02 GERD,Can't have any legumes(soy, being the worse), allergic to PN/Tree Nuts, struggled to gain weight for years, my "picky" eater,Takes Zegerid. Johnny, 12/05/99 GERD, managed by diet, allergic to cashews/pistachios.
Are we spoiling our baby? How do I put her on a schedule?
I breastfed both my kids, and eventually they worked into their own schedule, but not as young as your baby is, more like 5mths maybe. I'll never forget when my youngest was almost a year and still waking up at night screaming in pain, the pediatrician advised me to let him cry, I refused to do it, I knew he was in pain, finally after switching doctors and having the reflux treated, he slept on his own and I never regretted my decision.
Check with your
doctor first!