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Nov 23, 2009
Baby eats only while falling asleep, please advice!
Hi - I was hoping someone can let me know if they experienced this with their baby. My son is almost 4mos and his symptoms started about 2 mos ago with just loss of interest during feedings (he used to eat very well, a lot and fast before all this started). After a while, he would start crying after eating about 2oz - after this it would take so long to finish feeding him (sometimes up to 2 hours). We noticed he was not gaining weight as well. Eventually, he would cry when it was time to eat and would refuse the bottle (breastmilk from birth) altogether. We tried different bottles, nipples, even formula and all with the same results. He vomitted about 6 times since this all started and has spit ups once in a while, the major issue is crying and just refusing to eat. Lately it's gotten so bad that he doesn't even let us sit down with him in anticipation of the feeding. Once we sit him down (in a bouncer or lay him on a mat) he seems happy and back to normal, as soon as we pick him up to feed he's crying hysterically again. We tried spacing feedings out (hoping he will be hungry and feed well) but that did not help either - the only thing this accomplished is him eating very little for the day. For a while it would help when we quieted him down and let him suck on a paci for about 5-10 mins and then slip the bottle, he would eat like this but still the feedings take well over an hour - sometimes 2 hours. Overall, I'm noticing the only way he eats now (and very very slowsly) is when he is worn out and falling asleep, otherwise if he's awake he would not even sit down to feed. Please help - if you have any tips, advice or if you have a similar stroy please share. Thank you!
Nov 23, 2009
First off let me say, I am really sorry you are having to go through this. It is sooo frustrating to not know why or how to fix something that is supposed to be so natural like eating. For all of our kids here, this is a huge battle that begins very early on, when they need the nutrition the most. Every ounce is important for so many reasons. I know most people say that reflux is worse at night. That was true for us, but at night was the time that I could really get him to eat. He never slept for very long, but I could count on him taking a bottle every couple hours through the night while he was mostly asleep. For me that was hard, but I was glad it was an option because without those feeds, he would have starved to death. If you are having this much trouble at 4 months and have been struggling with it for 2 months you need to push for a referral to a pediatric GI doctor. The longer he goes with this, the harder it is to break the cycle. Most Peds will start with an antacid, like Zantac or Axid and thickening the formula first to see if that helps. For some it does, but most of us have needed a PPI like Prevacid or Nexium to control the reflux. I am not a doctor, nor do I play one on tv but I know that if your baby is refusing to eat unless he is asleep, there is a problem and don't stop asking until you get some answers and some help. The moms on this board are so wonderful and a HUGE resource, you will find loads of support here.
Nov 24, 2009
Ryan was born May 20th 2008. 9 lbs 2 oz. Ryan’s magic bullet was 30mg of Prevacid capsules mixed with Caracream from Marci-kids (I am forever indebted to the team at Marci-kids), Claratin for the mucos, and Mirlax for the constipation. Within 2 months of this combo he jumped from the 6% to the 50% for weight and continues to climb. Be strong, listen to your instincts. Read his story for more specifics that just might help you too - Karen
Sounds like an all too familiar story. What meds if any is your child on?
Nov 24, 2009
Daughter, Mia, born IUGR weighing 4 lbs. 10 oz, diagnosed with reflux at 2 months, open heart surgery to repair VSD at 7 months. Currently on Prevacid & Erythromycin. One happy little girl despite her many struggles!
First of all ((hugs)) to you. I have been there...1 year ago exactly. I know the struggle, I know the pain. I want to assure you it WILL get better. My daughter mostly ate in her sleep for several months. It was so hard. I would set my alarm and get up and feed her at intervals through the night. Get a referral to a Ped GI. It definitely sounds like silent reflux. The meds should help. Your little one hurts when eats, that's why he doesn't want to eat. When he is asleep, he doesn't feel the pain as much. It is a struggle, but you can get help. The moms here are wonderful and will give you great support. Is your son on any meds currently?
Nov 25, 2009
the reflux mom
Jan Gambino
The Reflux Mom
Mum to Rebecca (GERD since infancy, post fundo, post g tube, post FTT) and Jenna (GERD and POTS). Author of Reflux 101: A Parent's Guide to Gastroesophageal Reflux and Lead Expert on The HealthCentral Network, AcidReflux Connection at
Sleep Feeding Article
Hello! I am so sorry your little one is struggling to eat. He is trying to communicate that something is wrong as best he can. I wrote an article about sleep feeding after talking to many, many parents of babies who need to be drowsy or asleep to eat. Here is the link to the full text of the article: Let me know if you have any questions. My email addy is Best wishes, Jan Gambino
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