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Jul 28, 2009
jeddsmommy
Jessica, Mommy to Jedd, severe reflux, severe food and oral aversions, Finally G tube free!!! VSD repair 4-24-07 (open heart surgery), hypospadias, repaired 3 times and Ear tubes Visit Jedd at his CB site: www.caringbridge.org/visit/jedd
Totally OT, 2 year old behaviour issues...
Jedd will NOT behave for the ladies in the child watch center at all!!! It is completely frustrating.

It has gotten to the point now that every single time we work out they have to come and get me. Seriously, this is a completely different kid that the child that goes to Sunday School and is in the church nursery. He gives the church ladies NO problem at all, period. None, nada.

I have NO idea why he is like this with them and not at church.

The only thing I can think of is the ladies at church will be stern with him. Meaning, they use the "Mommy" voice when telling him to do something.

In contrast the ladies (young college at or right out of high school age) at the YMCA are NOT allowed to do that they tell me. They tell me they are only allowed to ask nicely they can't do what I want them to do.

I have NO idea what to do really. He is a totally different child for them.

We have tried talking to him in the car on the way over and talking to him right before he goes into their care. Neither works.

Jedd could care less about getting a "candy" treat. Maybe I could buy some cute stickers or something and see if that works??

Other than that I am at a lose and we are afraid they are going to tell us he can't go any more and then there goes DH and my time to work out and we will have to cancel our membership.

Tonight I stood quietly at the entrance and watched him. He was touching something and one of the girls was asking him to stop touching it. She asked him 3 times.

I then said in my Mommy voice, Jedd don't touch that and go over there and play.

He immediately left it alone and went and played without batting an eyelash.

My sister said, she thinks that because they constantly call me to come and discipline him, he may have learned that they will NOT discipline him. So, he continues to misbehave until Mommy arrives and he gets in trouble with me. Then goes right back to misbehaving for them after wards because he know they really won't do anything but call me.

Has anyone else been through this. Please tell me if this is normal, or what you did when you toddle acted this way????

I have talked with the girls ALOT and let them know that Jedd has a strong will and they need to be firm with him, but I am always met with, "we aren't allowed to do that here, sorry."

Seriously how are kids ever gonna behave if the workers use there sweet grandma voice to ask them to do everything, Jedd will totally NOT respond to that. He's one of those kids who require a STRONG thumb and will always be like that, he has been from day one.

Jul 28, 2009
mommy2k
He sounds like a pistol but what cutie! lol I used to teach preschoolers and the majority of them were autistic which needless to say had a mind of their own. I don't see why the girls can't use a stern voice. It's not screaming it's just using a firm voice. I think that the girls might be mistaken about that. It sounds a lot like he's just testing them and will continue until he figures out what he can and can't get away with. If they don't have any consequences for his actions then he'll keep doing it which makes him a very smart kid. Chances are they have a lot of other kids doing the same thing. I would suggest if they want to do the nice approach let him be their helper. Does he like to be helpful? I find that if they have a responsibility then it helps to distract them from the naughty stuff. he he tricky! Good luck! How's he doing? You're making me feel motivated to start working out. I really need to get in shape to make myself feel better. Finding the energy is the thing!
Jul 28, 2009
jeddsmommy
Jessica, Mommy to Jedd, severe reflux, severe food and oral aversions, Finally G tube free!!! VSD repair 4-24-07 (open heart surgery), hypospadias, repaired 3 times and Ear tubes Visit Jedd at his CB site: www.caringbridge.org/visit/jedd
Thanks, oh yes, he is a pistol and smart as a whip. I have had DRs tell me this because of how early he completely refused ALL foods. That and the fact that he had night terrors after heart surgery, they told me he must have a good memory and he's pretty smart, we are in t-r-o-u-b-l-e!!!!!

I think I may have to call the director and talk to her. they need to stop calling me to deal with his issues, by doing that, they are undermining his authority KWIM. He thinks, I don't have to listen to them, but when Mom comes, I do.

I also need to think up some ways to focus on the positive, KWIM. I need to figure out some way to make him "earn" something while he's there. He really likes playing in their sprinkler part of the pool area, so maybe we need to bring his suit and stuff and let him go for a bit every time he behaves. I'd be MORE than willing to do that, it's fun!!!

He's doing really well now though. He is actually starting to eat Lunchables!!!!! Imagine that!!!! I just can't believe it at all!!!! I mean, Lunchables just makes me feel sooo normal!!!!! He LOVES balogna, so even if I don't use a lunchable, I can give him balogna and some cheese. Do you know how many calories are in ONE slice of balogna!!!!!! HOLY COW!!!!

We really REALLY like working out ALOT!!! Before having Jedd we were HUGE gym rats!! We used to go in the morning before work. We would get up at 4:30a.m. and we LOVED it. It's something that DH and I used to do together that Jedd's issues have taken away. Sad but true. :-( So after 2.5 years we are ready to get back into shape for sure!!!

You know what I think, yes, it was hard gaining alot of my lost weight back, but for that time frame, Jedd's issues became more important. Just try your best, and when all the medical stuff dies down, focus on that then. That's what we did.

Jul 29, 2009
zack'smom
Zack born 09/28/07 @ 31 weeks. Dx silent reflux @ 6 mo. Now not so silent. Switched to Elecare @ 9 mo. On Prevacid 15mg 1x daily. Looking to stop the puke and gain some lbs.
Puke stopped about 24 months and he's learning to eat...very slowly.
Still on prevacid and periactin.
you give me hope...I'm getting FAT...because I dont work out anymore,. I'm so focused on Z! Phhhh! Yay for lunchables...I'm totally jealous! I find it hard to beleive that they can't use a stern voice with Jedd...they aren't "disciplining" him persay...Zack is SUPER smart, too...Just this morning I dropped him off and there was a different girl opening the daycare...she's really nice, but not tough at ALL...Z started crying and I heard her in there (I was hiding outside the door) and she was "pleading" with him...you don't PLEAD with a 2 year old! lol...anyway, definitely talk to the director...you're nota asking them to spank him or even put him in time out...jsut to let him know who's boss!
Jul 29, 2009
maggiemom
Maggie is now 3 years old and reflux free (knock on wood). I still check in some to see how everybody is doing :) Hugs to all!
He's just pushing the limit bc he knows he can. Kids very quickly figure out how far they can go with people. He knows that they can't do anything cept go get Mommy so he does what he wants. For example, a kid in my class kicked his dad and got no punishment...well, he knows if he even starts to kick me, he's in trouble. He doesn't even try it anymore. Jed isn't being bad, he's just being 2. If you want my 2 cents, I say talk to the person making this rule about no stern talking. I'd tell them that if you're going to be constantly interrupted bc they can't deal with your kid then you're gonna have to cancel your membership. I mean, are you really getting a good work-out?

Oh and what is it that he was touching? If he's not supposed to touch it, then they should put it up. One thing we do every morning is take things out of the class that we know will be a big problem. With this age, prevention is worth a lot more than constantly begging/fussing.

Aug 12, 2009
noor117
Strong, Beautiful, daughter who is thriving beyond imagination and a healthy, happy 3 year old.
Meggy loves to watch leap frog videos. This has become one of her privileges. She knows that if she doesn't behave, she doesn't get to watch tad. We also make a trip to either chick-fil-a or McDonald's with the local playgroup once weekly. At first she would feel left out because all the other kids talked about it and she wanted to know how come she didn't get to go. I learned to go shop shop prior to playgroup. I get organic applejuice and organic plantain chips from the grocery store. Then I order the kids meal and just replace her food with the chips and applejuice. I hand her the box or bag like this and it is a big deal. She feels so special getting that little prize. If she hasn't behaved, she has to miss her trip, and she does realize it at this early age. Meggy also likes to read. Some days she has me to read over 30 books. I have learned to use this as a privilege as well. She has to listen and cooperate, or mommy is not going to give her the extra time for special reading. (we still read her a few at bedtime, just not to her hearts desire.) I would def. talk to the director and explain the rationale. Maybe they can have reward stickers and charts,ect.
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