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Mar 05, 2009
Kristof's Story: Trouble with Doctors Part II
Thank you for all your responses. I want to find another doctor, but I am so afraid that the new doctor will talk to the current and will develop a bad opinion of me before I even have a chance. I wanted to add this last part of the story about his pedi: I went in for an office visit on a Saturday with the baby and we were the only ones in the waiting room. When I was signing in I heard the doctor talking to his assistant in the next room. I overheard him say, "Well, I guess I'd better go call Mrs. is a woman that calls here twice a day over COLIC!". Meanwhile, right in front of me, the receptionist is trying to motion to the doctor that I was standing right there, but he did not see her. He then said, "She is just...(I assume he made the crazy sign with his finger)". I was in tears. I saw the assistant that day and she was incredibly rude with me. Then the doctor called and said that he was sorry that he hurt my feelings, that he was "just trying to explain to his assistant that she should be aware that I might call and need her help". So full of it. For my son, I let it go. But then I knew that the whole office thought I was a nut job. I should note that I did call quite often and that was because I could not get a straight answer out of anyone. They would give me vague suggestions like, "you can try that", or "sure, he could have respiratory distress". Now I don't call as much and in fact I try not to call at all. Now you see why I am afraid of calling them. BTW, I am looking for a new pediatrician.
Mar 05, 2009
Sara, Mom to Isobel 10/01/08 Dx Silent reflux @ 6 wks. Prevacid 22.5mg split in 2 doses. Pepcid .5ml twice a day. Diagnostically confirmed milk protein, egg and cat allergy. Suspected corn, pea and squash allergy. Trialed Alimentum and Elecare without success, currently on Isomil Advance RTF with moderate success. Barium Swallow and UGI 3/08 Pondering a ph probe and endoscopy.
In your shoes I would go get a copy of the records from current ped and go interview prospective docs. Let them know YOU are interviewing THEM andl ooking for a doc who will work with you to solve the problem. Explain that you don't feel the current doc is appropriately concerned for your child, explain the symptoms and ask what would be their first step towards finding a solution. I'd be real upfront about not seeing eye to eye with current doc and repeat your child's symptoms in a clear but concise manner. JMHO
Mar 05, 2009
Great advice. That is exactly what I will do.
Mar 05, 2009
Maggie is now 3 years old and reflux free (knock on wood). I still check in some to see how everybody is doing :) Hugs to all!
Honey, if that makes you a nut job, then I'm certifiable :)

I mentioned that the ped was trying to prove me wrong. Well, he didn't listen to me until I CALLED HIM AT HOME at 8pm while my baby was screaming her lungs out and told him that I had been at my 6wk ob check-up. I told him that the ob said "Maggie sounds like she's refluxing". He said "we'll schedule an upper GI and pH probe".

Your ped sounds like a real jerk and he shouldn't be practicing if he can't be more sympathetic than that.

Don't worry about what might be said. Chances are the other doctors know his "bedside manner" and won't listen to him any way. You are probably not the only patient that has had issues with him.


Mar 06, 2009
maggiemom - I love that you called him at home! At one point I had to stop breastfeeding and switch to Neocate because he had an allergy and the doctor told me that the lactation nurses said I should have kept breastfeeding because he would be "better off". I told him that if anyone of them wanted to come to my house and spend a day with my son and then tell me I was wrong, I *might* reconsider.
Mar 06, 2009
Julie - I have three children. My youngest Katie is my refluxer. My first Ben was very colicy and is ADHD. My middle Jakob is pretty easy going. Katie had it bad as a baby no sleep for two years. She was on Nutramagin, Prevacid and Zantac. Thought we were through it but after age three it came back big time. After her scope she was put on Prevacid 45mg a day and mylanta as needed. Scope was in Sept. Showed damage in stomach and espophogus. It took about 7 months of medication and Reflux diet for her to start feeling better.
Don't worry. You will find a doc that isn't an *******. WHen you find a good one they will probably already know that your current doctor is a ****** ****** ******!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mar 06, 2009
Maggie is now 3 years old and reflux free (knock on wood). I still check in some to see how everybody is doing :) Hugs to all!
Well, it was a stroke of luck bc he was the dr on call that night :)

You do what you have to do and many of us have found that you have to get down right rude sometimes. I breastfed too and cried for the first several weeks about it. I didn't stop, but in retrospect I think I should have. I think Maggie would have done much better. It's definitely not an easy decision to make.

Mar 06, 2009
Jessica, Mommy to Jedd, severe reflux, severe food and oral aversions, Finally G tube free!!! VSD repair 4-24-07 (open heart surgery), hypospadias, repaired 3 times and Ear tubes Visit Jedd at his CB site:
I agree with Julie. The Dr reputation will preceded him. Others know how he acts I promise. We had this issue without GI office. It is the ONLY one in this area so when we switched we had to see another Dr in the same practice. Believe me, the other Drs know about him/her.

I am sorry, but I would have had to spot out a few choice words to him and it takes alot for me to do that. I have had over 2 years of practice at that though.

Dont' feel bad, I've screamed, yelled, swore, ect on the phone to get through to someone when our GI was the pits. Heck I even held Jedd up to the phone and let them listen to him screaming his head off. They didn't like that one.

I would also go as far to make a report against that DR. There is NO reason for him to treat you that way.

By the way I have enough you know what's that I'd make one last appt and give him the what for with the door open. I'd also get a copy of my child's records while I was there, no matter who much it cost me. I wouldn't depend on them sending them out...BTW I wonder what kinds of things he has written in there ABOUT YOU!!!! I'd want a copy for sure!!!!

Mar 06, 2009
Donnessa, mom to Halley born 3/10/07
Reflux (mostly) resolved at 14 months
and Addison born 8/17/09. Currently exclusively bf and on 7.5mg Prevacid
I am absolutely infuriated reading this. He's lucky that it was you standing there and not me...he wouldn't have a head right now. Good luck finding a new doctor - there are plenty of good ones out there that will treat you with respect. Keep us posted.
Mar 06, 2009
Shawna: First time Mom to Mallory (10/07/08). Silent reflux diagnosed at 2 months. Alimentum formula fed. Trial of Losec (minimal effect). Now Prevacid 1x/day plus Zantac 2x/day.
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Check out this website: You can look up your doctor and other doctors in your area and find out who is good (and who is not!). You can also leave 'feedback' about your experiences. I like this site because it often confirms that if you are having trouble with a doctor you are usually not alone.
Mar 06, 2009
Adriane Reese 05/16/07; seemingly healthy when born; diagnosed with MSPI, severe Reflux, Apnea, Ashtma, Epilepsy, and severe food allergies(rice, corn, milk, soy, eggs, oats, wheat, beef, chicken, squash, pumpkin, avocado, etc.);On apnea monitor, seems to be tolerating RCF w/carbohydrate mixed in; on Zyrtec, Xopenex, Prevacid
There is another site also. I think it is called We had an awful ped with our first dd. She had 13 ear infections before 9 months with a family history, I had tubes until I was 10 years old, and in Feb he told me to that he wanted to wait it out until Summer. It was affecting her balance, hearing and speech. Not to mention she threw up with every infection and would get so dehydrated that she would be hospitalized. I did the same thing as Maggie's mom. I called the him at home one night when she was actually continually vomitting on the floor, luckily we didn't have carpet at the time, and crying unconsolably. She had just been treated and released from the hospital and he said to keep the fluids down her. I laughed in on the phone. Anyway, I went to an after hours clinic and had the best doctor there. At afterhours! It was weird. She has been our ped for 5 years now. You will find someone. Where do you live?
Mar 06, 2009
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Melina 7/24/02 now reflux free!!
Ella 5/3/05 GERD, asthma, hypotonia, food intolerances, esophagitis, IBS //
Ava 5/3/05 asthma, food allergies
Pic: My girls! They are getting so big!
I agree with everyone else and with finding a DR that will work with you! I am so sorry you had to deal with that... how rude and unprofessional they were. I also agree with checking out some of the health grade sites. I did that a while back with a DR I was uncertain about and he had failing grades. So for giggles I checked two that I absolutely love and (shockingly enough) they had excellent grades on the sites and places where people had written in tons of praise. Pretty interesting. Best of luck and please let us know what happens.
Check with your
doctor first!