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Jan 12, 2009
andrew122905
Michelle mother to Andrew 12-29-05 Was not diagnosed with GERD until 20 months so he now has a severe food aversion.
Anyone else feel as if you don't have the patience to have another baby?
Anyone else feel as if you don't have the patience to have another baby? My friends are mass-producers of children and I am always explaining that it's been too difficult & that I may be "ruined" for children. Does that feeling go away even if the medical issues don't?
Jan 12, 2009
b-girl
Mom to Jasmine aka: Jazz 01/24/2007
Dx with silent reflux at 8 months
FPIES, DGE, MSPI. Recently diagnosed with EC (Eosin. colitis and now Primary immune deficiency disease.
Also mom to Nathan. born Jan.20th, 2009, MPI . so far dx with reflux and has an extremely sensitibe GI system. Also dx with primary immune deficiency disease.
Yep, and I am going to deliver in 3 weeks, my second child!!!! This was a surprise child, but I'm hoping that this one will be healthy and that Jazzy will be somewhat distracted with helping and all. I get overwhelmed thinking about it, but I will just do what I can and hope for the best.
Jan 12, 2009
blueleopard
Pictured: G'mom w/3 kids. I'm mom to 1 angel Melissa (dec'd 11/92 - hypoplastic left-heart syn.)
2 healthy daughters (knock wood) Cory (16), Kim (11) & Eric (4) diagnosed with e.e. (scoped 8/08), GERD & severe food/seasonal allergies, asthma. Cried non-stop first 17 mths. of life Found out he is allergic to cow's milk, soy, eggs, and peanuts. Takes Prevacid, Neocate One Plus & Flovent.
Everyone is different. I can honestly say that I was cut out to have one, maybe two kids MAX. My third (with the medical issues & first boy) sent me way over the edge. Things have still not calmed down much and he is almost three years old. Every birth is a gamble (I had two with serious medical issues - completely unrelated issues). The time, worry, expense of a new child should be really thought out before the ohhhhhh, how cute factor. I would give anything to go back in time & have the time I had before with my daughters and husband. I know it sounds horrible (& I do love my son), but I am just being completely honest. Don't worry about how many kids your friends have, just worry about how many YOU can comfortably handle. Ellen
Jan 12, 2009
stickybean
I am Jacky, mommy to Joslyn Olivia (April 2008) and Katelyn Isabel (November 2009).
Joslyn was dx'ed with Silent Reflux with breath apnea at 5 days old. VERY SCARY!
Katelyn is a spitter reflux baby. Started at 3 days old as well. (Both were/are breast fed.. symptoms came on when my milk came in).
Joslyn has been reflux free since she was 12 months (suffered poor weight gain for a few months) and Katelyn is now on Zantac... waiting to see if it works.
I have a fear of having another... after our two mc's before Joslyn..... I was a wreck during the preg w/ Joslyn. I enjoyed every day.... but my DH and I always had a fear too. When I would call my DH (while preggers w/ Joslyn) he would answer the phone hoping I was not bleeding again.

Then when she turned blue at 3 days old..... and the nightmare that followed..... I am way scared!

Do I want more babies? Heck yeah I do..... but I am still scared!

Will we loss another baby? Will we have 3 angels in heaven? Will the next baby be healthy?

So I can understand the fear. My DH's brother and sis in law pop kids out like there is no tomorrow.... and nothing is medically wrong with any of them!

They dont have the fear of it. So they dont really understand.

I feel your concern!

Jacky

Jan 12, 2009
mom2adriane&morgan
Adriane Reese 05/16/07; seemingly healthy when born; diagnosed with MSPI, severe Reflux, Apnea, Ashtma, Epilepsy, and severe food allergies(rice, corn, milk, soy, eggs, oats, wheat, beef, chicken, squash, pumpkin, avocado, etc.);On apnea monitor, seems to be tolerating RCF w/carbohydrate mixed in; on Zyrtec, Xopenex, Prevacid
I have felt that way for about 18 months now. I never wanted my children to be too close in age anyway becuase I want them to have time to the baby. I always thought that I might want one more especially since my first pregnancy was so easy, compared to the second one anyway. I had a hard time getting pregnant with Adriane, 2 mc, and then had to take shots 3 times a week every week until my 14th week. After I had her and in the midst of ppd I kept thinking if I hadn't gone to such great measures to not mc that she wouldn't be here. I went through a lot of different emotions including guilt.

I think these are normal responses and you will be the one that decides how many kids you should be in your family. As we all know as parents caring for any child is a huge undertaking and caring for a sick child is even more so. So, if you and dh decide that financially, emotionally and whatever reasons that you just want what you have now that is your decision.

Jan 12, 2009
maggiemom
Maggie is now 3 years old and reflux free (knock on wood). I still check in some to see how everybody is doing :) Hugs to all!
You may change your mind :) My first was a dream baby but I said "no more". 7 years later I decided to have another. Now I have my challenge, lol. I'm so glad we decided to have another baby even though she is a handful compared to her sister. Just take your time. Don't feel pressured by other people. You'll know if the time is right for you.
Jan 12, 2009
rissaroo
Picture: This is what happens when you raise a kid on health food and they get ahold of a Coke! Bad mom, that soda is NOT on the reflux diet.
UPDATE: Isaiah is now 12 and off meds! He is doing great, eating again and hopefully will be catching up in the growing department. I am still in the "hoping it sticks" phase, but we're so happy that he's better!
(((hugs))) I guess everyone's different, and my only advice is that you should follow your heart. You know what you can handle and what would be too much...and maybe if you do have more children, waiting a much longer time between babies will work better. maybe things will be easier soon and you'll know that it's time...I guess I'm not helping much here. For us, Isaiah's issues had gotten much better and things were pretty easy when we had our second (although there were some people who were surprised we had more kids after the difficulties with Isaiah's first 4 months). If you're not feeling like it's a good idea right now, then I'd say wait. Things may be easier later on, or at least you'll have a better idea about what to expect.
Jan 12, 2009
slimfast13
This is our dd, Alessandra. Dx with GER 10/07. Ran the gamut with meds and now done with them (crossed fingers). Using magnesium, probiotics and prebiotic supplements. With the exception of teething and general sassy attitude, all is well now. They really CAN grow out of it!
I'm right there with you. I never had the "warm and fuzzy" feelings for kids much. I like them, but I was always ready to hand them back to their mom after babysitting. Allie was a surprise, so I REALLY wasn't ready for her, and I still have days of tearing my hair out.

My family is very traditional Catholic. My brother has 3, one has autism and another has Hirshsprung's, so they're taking a break. The rest of their friends have at least 3-4 each, so I'm looked upon as strange being 29 years old and only having one.

I'd like to think I'll enjoy giving Allie a sibling, but I still don't think I'm cut out for motherhood. You're not by yourself here - having a kid is hard enough, but compound that with medical problems and it can wreak havoc on your sanity and feeling of well-being...

Jan 12, 2009
emibug
Kathryn, Pager Volunteer and mommy to Emily Mia 02/04/07. 3 years old with GERD. 30mg Prevacid and Pepcid AC. Mylanta needed for flares. Failed prilosec med switch. Tried and failed many med weans but GERD and pain are well controlled. Functional constipation. Reoccurring SBBO. Suspected IBD or autoimmune disease. Resolved issues: MSPI, CSID (acquired), Stage 2 kidney reflux, Chronic diarrhea.
Audrey Meadow 06/20/08. born 34/35 weeks. Still b/f and eats everything! ftt and chronic constipation.
ugh YES!!! today is a PERFECT example.... Audrey is screaming her bloody head off and emily is having diareha again..... and i am here trying not to implode on myself! some days that feeling goes away really it does but when they are both screaming adn you have a headache, i won't lie it comes back ten strong! good luck mama you will do it and get through it and smile b/c you are a good person and a great mama.
Jan 12, 2009
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In so many many ways, I want to have one more child. Especially, to make sure Meggy has family-something I never had till marriage-and they are in Egypt.

In other ways, I often think what would I do if I had another child and couldn't be with Meggy for the 100's of owies she has gone through, for the terrifying x-rays for her, through all the diagnostic testing, through the careless docs. that handle her like a piece of equipment, through the ER visits where they literally stick her 15+ times unless Mommie turns into a monster and makes it perfectly clear that you will not hurt my child or you will face every legal consequence possible, and the lab techs. that give her hematomas out of freaking carelessness.

I don't know how I would handle having another child right now with all the sleepless nights, the crying so much through out the day and the "Mommie, hold me, I hurts, I hurts, Medicine pees." When your child is telling you-"Mommie-grump-nite nite" u know u need more sleep.

I want another child, but for right now, I know Meggy needs me and that I should wait. I don't know what the future holds, and I will make the best of whatever comes my way.

I am happier than anyone could imagine to have my little Meggy and she makes the world shine. No matter what we go through I love her every day. It is just draining to stand by and see her suffer so much and not be able to even comfort her.

Jan 12, 2009
nicholasmom
Renee, mother to Nicholas, born 4/18/08 with silent reflux, moderate laryngomalacia, Sandifer's Syndrome& suspected MSPI. On Neocate, Simply Thick and Prevacid. Also mother to Nathan, born 12/06/06, who had mild reflux the first few months.
Goodness, I keep going back and forth with the same question in my mind. We have two. The first is pretty easy-though has been sick a lot lately since starting school and Nicholas is just so much more "high maintenance". I love them both dearly and am glad we have them both. I go back and forth between feelings on a third but the decision doesn't have to be made today.
Jan 13, 2009
lorenzomama
Lorenzo b.4/25/07 1 week in NICU w/ aspirate pneumonia from a reflux episode; diagnosed GERD at 9weeks; Used Zantac for 5months. Currently using Chinese Medicine and Craniosacral Therapy. GERD, Obstructive Sleep Apnea, Sensory Processing Disorder. Ask me about breastfeeding a refluxer! Pic: day 5 in the NICU.
Oh thank you! Thank you all for talking about this. When I was very young, I wanted to have lots of kids, but since I couldn't seem to meet anyone with whom I would have considered having children, and then I learned that PCOS might keep me from having children anyway, I let that dream die away. When I got pregnant with Lorenzo it was truly a miracle. In that sense, I have no business worrying at all about whether to have a second child. But I do want him to have a sibling, and I would like to have another. The trouble is, in addition to the exhaustion that has come from 2 years of almost no sleep and a high needs (if incredibly good natured) child, I am 40 years old, and I cannot imagine things getting easier (ie, me getting any sleep and re-generating a brain) in a time frame that would allow me to even consider having another child.

I know that the path will unfold for each of us in whatever way it is meant to, but there is a lot of sadness and fear along the way -- at least that's what I feel. Who knows, maybe I'm just being encouraged by life to consider adoption down the road :) As always, it is such a relief to know that none of us is alone...

Jan 13, 2009
isobel'smamma
Sara, Mom to Isobel 10/01/08 Dx Silent reflux @ 6 wks. Prevacid 22.5mg split in 2 doses. Pepcid .5ml twice a day. Diagnostically confirmed milk protein, egg and cat allergy. Suspected corn, pea and squash allergy. Trialed Alimentum and Elecare without success, currently on Isomil Advance RTF with moderate success. Barium Swallow and UGI 3/08 Pondering a ph probe and endoscopy.
Thank you guys for being so honest. My DH is already talking about getting me pregnant again - and he's hoping for twins. I tell him he's out of his damn mind. Seriously. Out. Of. His. Mind.
Jan 13, 2009
ahlia
nothing left for a fourth child
i feel this everyday. I have three severe refluxers. One of them is also autistic. Have been through three fundos between them and am about to face fundo number four. I would love another child, but its a healthy child i want and the chances are slim. I know that sounds terrible but i cant take anymore...
Jan 13, 2009
andrew122905
Michelle mother to Andrew 12-29-05 Was not diagnosed with GERD until 20 months so he now has a severe food aversion.
Thanks for all of your responses. It feels good to know that you all are in the same boat even though this boat stinks sometimes. My husband and I never planned on having children in the first place and although I am so glad we have Andrew- even after three years I am just a little burned out on having kids. I guess it's so hard to get others to understand what we go through - when "he looks so healthy" as people always say. He is a wonderful child I just don't think I have the patience or the guts to chance it on another child. I look at some of my friend's children who are such great eaters, well-behaved and happy and I think no wonder you have four!! If I could get Andrew to act like that for one day I might reconsider but anyway... just rambling.. thanks for listening...
Jan 13, 2009
bib3mama
I have 3 boys, youngest has gerd, 18 months of no sleep. Prevacid 2x/7.5 mg thinking of switching to prilosec.
yes, all the time...
I'm so relieved to hear everybody's ideas on this. For me it is painful and I want to cry when I know in my heart I can't handle another little one. I wanted David so much and he came with this problem, this all consuming problem. I have hope that someday down the road I will be getting sleep again, my husband & I can have quality time together, and we will have to discern, pray, talk to our Creator, the Author of all life and decide what is best for our family. <>This reflux monster has taken me down a road that I didn't want to go. <>But I have built up my tolerance for many distractions. I think I'm stronger in many ways. Like Jesus did with Peter. Peter didn't want to give up his fishing and family, etc...But he did and look where he was lead. He is the first Pope of the Catholic church and many good people (saints) have been influenced by him and by the catholoic church. When it all unfolds and our life stories are clear I'm sure this GERD stuff will have made us better mommys in the long run. (painful as it is) Thanks everyone for talking about this.
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