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Sep 10, 2008
michelle&aurora
Aurora born March 17, 2007
3 years, 8 months old
Weighs 25.8 lbs
8 lbs 11 oz at birth.
Recovered Chronic Projectile Vomiter
Prevacid Free since September 08
Egg allergy diagnosed Jan 26/09
Has a Pectus Excavatum
Has an Epipen
I'm so mad right now!
Some of you might remember how stressed I was about daycare and making sure that they knew that Rory has issues with chewing and cup drinking, etc, because of her reflux. Last month, after speaking with the co-ordinator in person and on the phone, I felt comfortable that they understood Rory has a medical condition that will most likely require a bit of adaptation on their part. The co-ordinator had agreed to *modify* their menu and make sure everyone knew that she has to be watched carefully because of choking on things like raw vegetables and to be prepared for her to be on the bottle, blah blah blah......Well, they have a NEW co-ordinator. I knew this was going to happen but the old co-ordinator said she would give the new gal the full run-down. Well, I just spoke to her, and she's an idiot!!! Sorry, I am so friggin' MAD. The new co-ordinator had no idea what I was talking about, she was not briefed about Rory AT ALL!! I told her she is going to need to have a bottle of formula after lunch and around 4pm (so I don't have to deal with a starving kid on the bus). Well, she tells me they wean their kids off bottles asap and she'll be the only one on the bottle. I said, well, that's great if you can, but she NEEDS to drink her formula, at least 8 to 12 oz for the day, so they'll need to use their judgement. She says it will be up to the teacher how they deal with that. When I was asking her questions and going over everything she had no idea how to answer and kept saying *talk to her teacher* and *I'm new, I'm not sure*....I'm doing two transition days before she starts full time, and the old co-ordinator said we could go from 8:30 to 11:30, and I could pop out for a coffee and see how she reacts....the new lady said I could only stay for a half hour and then I have to leave because I might interfere with the day. This does not sound like a transition period to me. Is this normal? LOL. I'm sure she'll be fine at daycare, I'm just really upset that I took so much time preparing them and myself, and now I'm back to square one. the only good thing is Rory has made a lot of progress, but she still chokes on a lot of stuff and they CAN'T force her to drink from a cup cold turkey. Hopefully her ECE isn't as slack as the new co-ordinator.
Sep 10, 2008
mommy2max&lucy
Patti, mom to Max (3/04) with EE and chronic sinus issues; Lucy (6/07) with reflux
So sorry to hear about this situation...I would definitely be very stressed out as well. As for the bottle, I would stick to your guns about making sure she gets the amount necessary. However, you may be pleasantly surprised. Our son had major feeding issues...including being on baby food only until about 20 months. When he started daycare, he did fabulous in terms of eating and taking a cup...seeing the other kids was honestly the best thing for him. He strived to be just like them. Hopefully Rory will succomb to the peer pressure...in a positive way :) Also, in terms of transition, just our experience, but the longer we stayed, the harder it was for both our kids to adjust. We found that if we just stayed for as long as it took for them to put their stuff away and get engaged in an activity, it made leaving much easier. If you stay long the first few days, Rory may start to think that you will be staying that long every day. Good luck! - Patti
Sep 10, 2008
michelle&aurora
Aurora born March 17, 2007
3 years, 8 months old
Weighs 25.8 lbs
8 lbs 11 oz at birth.
Recovered Chronic Projectile Vomiter
Prevacid Free since September 08
Egg allergy diagnosed Jan 26/09
Has a Pectus Excavatum
Has an Epipen
Thanks :) I totally agree and I am hoping she will do just that, succumb to peer pressure. The main reason I'm mad is that it's like they didn't take anything I told them seriously. It just goes back to people think reflux is a *non-issue* for toddlers, and it's just not true, kwim?
Sep 10, 2008
daniejo
Mom (Danie) to Adam (9-4-03) & Nate (3-7-07) Nate was diagnosed with silent AR at 2 months old. He was on neocate, prevacid 30mg per day and couldn't start solids till he was almost 8 months old. He started cow's milk at 14 months and is currently off all meds!! So far so good :) PIC: Disney trip 2008. Nate didn't know Piglet was there, he didn't like the characters too much.
Hey, I would be just as upset. You took all the time to explain to them and now you have to do it again. I understand that they like to wean their students from the bottle ASAP...something you would LOVE as well, it just isn't that easy for some kids...especially the ones who NEED the calories like Rory. I would try and meet with the teacher and discuss it all in full detail. I know you feel like a tape recorder having to repeat it over and over.

As for the transition time, all places seem so different. I did that with Adam when he started. I took him and stayed with him for about 15 minutes but never left him during that time. I decided with Nate (he just started yesterday) that I was just dropping him off and that's that. Here again, my boys are all or nothing so if I stayed with Nate for even 5 minutes, he would expect it all the time, lol.

I agree with you...she'll do just fine but what would life be for us mom's if we didn't stress about it?? I know I am an over protective mom and some of the teachers may LOL about me but I don't care...I am paying for them to take care of my child so I will ask as many questions as I want. Nate is VERY clingy today. I know it is because of him being at school yesterday. I am letting him hang on me for a bit but then I have to get to cleaning, lol.

Sep 10, 2008
elysabethsmom
Sharon, Mom to Elyse, 17 mos (15 mos adjusted-preemie). Zantac/Elecare. History of: Respiratory Distress Syndrome with ventilation/CPAP/cannula, tpn, n/g tube, PDA, jaundice, apnea, bradycardia/tachycardia, severe anemia, blood transfusion, reflux, Sandifer's Syndrome, intestinal malrotation, hemangiomas, MSPI, feeding issues. ICU inpatient 53 days! 2 surgeries, 2 UGIs, barium enema, pH probe, endoscopy. Developmentally on target now! PIC: Yobaby Beard
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So frustrating. I bet the new coord is so overwhelmed she wasn't wanting another responsibility. If I were you, I would write down your instructions and give copies to the teacher and the coordinator, then they won't have to try and remember what times, amounts of formula, etc. Seems a little harsh though that she told you straight up about the weaning thing, and that she would be the ONLY one, etc. Elyse is 15 mos and I feel the need to explain to people why she is still on the bottle, like they should even care!! but it is a little embarrassing. I also gave her a paci when I dropped her off in a daycare situation for 2.5 hours bc she had never been with strangers that long alone....and felt embarrassed about that!
Sep 10, 2008
mom2halleyann
Donnessa, mom to Halley born 3/10/07
Reflux (mostly) resolved at 14 months
and Addison born 8/17/09. Currently exclusively bf and on 7.5mg Prevacid
*sigh* how frustrating. I agree that maybe you should meet with the teacher - they will be taking care of her anyway and will be more likely to follow instruction than the overwhelmed coordinator. I also think that Rory will want to move to the cup pretty quickly...they learn SO fast at daycare from other kids. I guess all you can really do is just watch for signs of dehydration and make sure that the daycare people are extremely diligent about reporting how much she drinks.

As far as the transition days go, I personally would go in there with her for a few minutes and then leave. She's going to be upset if you've been with her 5 minutes or 5 hours. My experience is that Halley only cries for a few minutes after I leave (actually she never cries at daycare anymore, just when she goes to the church nursery). I would let her stay there for a few hours and then pick her up and then try to let her stay longer the next day (maybe 4 hours the first day, 6 hours the next). I really think you'll be pleasantly surprised by how quickly she adjusts. At this age, they really start playing well with other kids. Good luck - I'll be thinking of you.

Sep 10, 2008
maggiemom
Maggie is now 3 years old and reflux free (knock on wood). I still check in some to see how everybody is doing :) Hugs to all!
I may be wrong but here's what I'm thinking: the people that you worked all this out with knew that they were leaving so they just appeased you. Now the new person has to deal with it. I'm sorry that you've been caught in the middle of it.

My personal opinion is to be very direct with this person about what Rory NEEDS and explain that you have worked very hard to get her where she is today. At this point she needs daycare and they will HAVE to accommodate her.

Working in childcare, I know how difficult it is as a teacher to keep up with all the differences in children, but that's not an excuse to just leave a kid hanging out to dry. Assure them that you will work with them to get her on a sippy, but she needs time to adjust. Let them know how very important it is that she get her calories. I'm sorry!

Sep 10, 2008
mom2coy
Coyle Eagan. One Year Old. Doing well on Cow's Milk flavored with juice :) Drinking two bottles of Go&Grow daily. Eating solids better but still have rough days. No More Silent Reflux-that I can hear anyway.. but puking again. Zantac 2ML 2X daily.
How frustrating for you; just when you thought it was all figured out. I'm sure she will be great though. If it makes you feel any better, my mom watched three little ones when I was a teen. they were perfect angels.. until their mom showed up...
Sep 10, 2008
engin117
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I am sorry to hear of your problems.
Just a question- is the co-ordinator a mother? Is the teacher a mother?

I used to teach preschool too. I am sad to say, I thought I knew it all before I became a mother. I think being a mother gives a lot of insight on being a teacher. I loved those children as though they were my own, but there is nothing like being a mother and all the things I have learned. I think if I were to teach again today, I would be a much better teacher. I could give so much more.

Also, does the daycare also mind if you just pop in. This is a great measure. From experience, it is a very good thing to do. A lot of things go on in day care that parents don't realize. If u can just pop in any time of day without a problem and walk back to her classroom after checking in, it is a great sign.

Sorry for the off topic
Sadly enough, when parents showed up at the day care I last worked, the director would call back and say put (example) 6 kids in so and so's room before (example) Tammy's mom gets there. That is why I resigned. They expected me to take care of 27 children 6 weeks to 2 years old by myself. There was no way to take proper care of them like this. It broke my heart. Here their parents were entrusting the children to my care and I couldn't give them the best because the director was more worried about how many she could pack into one room.

Sep 10, 2008
mollybeth
Cooper was born 12/19/07. Birth weight: 7lbs10oz. Weight as of 2/11: 8lbs9oz. 6/23: 14lbs12oz! Struggling again 12mo: 18lbs. Breast Fed exclusively, on strict elimination diet until Dec 08. MSPI as well as other food intolerances Diagnosed w/ GER at 5 days following barium swallow. Choking with apnea spells. Ftt. dx w/ Laryngomalacia following brochoscopy 1/29. Aspiration. apnea monitor until 5mo. pH probe 1/29 showed severe reflux. Sandifers Syndrome. lbrady and tackycardia. echo and EKG 2/18: Came back normal! Swallow study 2/29: some NG reflux. Unexplained seizure 4/1. Negative CF sweat test 4/4! EGD 11/19: reflux damage in esophagus. pH probe 11/19, reflux improved. Safe foods: pears, apples, peas, rice, small amounts of chicken, potatoes, and carrots.
Currently drinking Elecare vanilla 30cal/oz and breastmilk.
Meds: Nexium 10mg 2x daily. Carafate as needed, miralaxx as needed, probiotics daily
I'm sorry your having such trouble. I'm sure your so frustrated.
Sep 10, 2008
seamus mama
Seamus was diagnosed with Silent Reflux at 3 weeks. Now he is 14 months, on Prilosec and avoiding dairy,soy,egg. Still nursing. A lot !!!
How lame. Is there an alternative daycare you can bring her to so you don't have to deal with these wackos?
Check with your
doctor first!