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Sep 08, 2008
sadie
Our 1 year old daughter has silent reflux, hypotonia as well as benign external hydrocephalus. We are currently weaning onto whole milk (we'll see if it works) and she is also on Prevacid 15mg per day.
Very OT sorry!
I just had to ask about this as I value your opinions... So in two weeks Keira turns a year old. Since her reflux I started my addiction to PEPSI. I was awake almost 24/7 and I got use to the sugar/caffeine to keep me going. Well w/ my PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) that's NOT a good thing as some women that have that have insulin issues. Also while suffering from PPD I stopped taking my Metformin which helps regulate my cycles and insulin even though I'm not diabetic. Why did I stop it? I guess I just kinda stopped caring as I had too much else on my mind. So I have 50-60 pounds to lose. If some of you remember I use to want to join a gym but dh said it was too much money to do that. Well lately I joined one and I went for the first time yesterday. Now mind you- I use to work out all the time and I never had a weight problem like this before. Welllllll DH all the sudden decided that he would start me on a diet and then he decided to dump out all my soda that was in the fridge as well as anything that had sugar in the house. Now that ticked me off. I fully intend to work on my weight and I plan to cut down and then cut out the soda but not just cold turkey. My main issues are that I need to get back on the Metformin (just started back on that), I need to excercise which I just started that and I need to eat more than once or twice a day. If your dh did what mine did would it upset you? He's very athletic and he makes sure he gets to work out as much as he wants but when it's my time to go it's on his terms. So very frustrating. I feel like I was pregnant, then had Keira then had depression and her reflux as well as her ventricle thing w/ her brain then physical therapy and I feel like I'm being punished or something for my weight gain that I never had before. Thanks for letting me vent. ;)
Sep 08, 2008
sadie
Our 1 year old daughter has silent reflux, hypotonia as well as benign external hydrocephalus. We are currently weaning onto whole milk (we'll see if it works) and she is also on Prevacid 15mg per day.
I hope I don't sound like I'm feeling all sorry for myself here. It's just that Keira needed a lot of attention and I did sorta let myself go. And it just feels like when you start to try and work on yourself then dh decides to get really domineering. He may think he's helping but it actually makes me feel worse.
Sep 08, 2008
maggiemom
Maggie is now 3 years old and reflux free (knock on wood). I still check in some to see how everybody is doing :) Hugs to all!
I bet he thought he was helping you...thing is that caffeine and sugar aren't things you can just quit cold turkey. I wouldn't get mad, I'd just "nicely" inform him that you can take care of your own diet, lol.
Sep 08, 2008
maggiemom
Maggie is now 3 years old and reflux free (knock on wood). I still check in some to see how everybody is doing :) Hugs to all!
And I totally understand bc I could stand to lose a "few" lbs myself.
Sep 08, 2008
mdbarbagallo
Melissa - Mommy to Sebastian, born 9/28/07 @ 7 lbs 7 oz and 20.75 in. At docs at 12 months: 27 pounds and 32 in! Good grief! GERD - currently on Prevacid suspension (liquid equivalent of 45 mg a day). Allergic to dairy, soy, eggs, wheat, all treenuts, peanuts, fish, shellfish, peas, sesame, bananas, barley, coconut, dust, dust mite, dog, cat, latex. Seasonal allergies. Oral Allergy Syndrome (OAS). Neocate only - no solids - until further notice (drinks and loves water, too). Loves his doggie, our rescued Treeing Walker Coonhound, Louise, even though he is allergic to her. Louise will make your doctor a homemade pie if you would like her to. PHOTO: We couldn't do a cake on Sebastian's birthday, but that didn't stop him from tossing around the contents of a big bowl of popcorn! He now tries to eat it when we play with popcorn, so no more of that game.... :(
Well, I'd be mad as hell if my husband did that to me. He is superfit - he actually pissed me off royally when I was pregant: as I grew and grew and grew, he worked out more and more and more, shouting from the rooftops how he weighed less than he did in early college and could I please look at his abs. I don't have a weight problem, but I will soon if I don't change my habits ASAP. I haven't been taking as good of care of myself as I should, either. I have started drinking diet soda every day just to stay awake (never did this before) and have been snacking on the worst sort of crap when I am hungry around Sebastian because it is hard to find anything he is not allergic to - so instead of eating carrots and stuff like that, I have been chowing down on potato chips and fruit snacks. BAD HABIT I AM FORMING HERE. Need to stop. Also having dessert after lunch AND dinner. BAD for me. I dn't havr time to run as far as I used to, and it is starting to catch up with me.

I understand how you feel like all of your energy has gone to Keira. It is so hard to get back on track. Easing into a new lifestyle is so hard, you definitely can't just give up things like that overnight because it won't work. They have to be phased out. Your man was only trying to help, it sounds like, but he definitely didn't think about how it might make you upset.

I myself am trying for success by making small, small changes. For example, I've started doing my sit-ups in the morning while Sebastian crashes around his play area instead of at night when I am too pooped to do them half the time. Today was the first time - we'll see how that goes! LOL! I also chose a cup of coffee instead of a soda today. I'm giving myself a choice of one or the other each day. It's not so bad that way...but both wreaked havoc on me because I get strung out even on small amounts of caffiene! I also made myself eat a slice apple after my lunch today. It really is true - I was too full at that point to reach for the chocolate chips or fruit snacks (normally, I shovel one or the other or both in after whatever I eat for lunch). But I had half a package of fruit snacks and will eat the rest tomorrow after lunch. OK - this sounds really stupid now that I see it in writing, but I am trying with baby steps here. I am eventually going to try just having dessert after dinner instea dof after every meal...

Good for you for taking these steps for you. I'm rooting for you!!!!

Sep 08, 2008
amber f
As someone who has been over weight her whole life I would certainly take offense if my husband did that. I know you must feel terrible and low self esteem isn't going to help you lose any weight. Dh may think he is helping but if he truly wants to help then he should help you get to the gym and do things you are comfortable doing. I am a little testy when I hear of a husband being so domineering. I think that equal partnership is very important. So I'm sorry that I can't be more empathtic to your husband. You have shared other things he has said to you and I think if I was you, I'd want him to look more at being an equal partner in your marriage instead of telling you what you should and should be doing or eating or drinking for that matter. I'm sorry I don't want to sound harsh or offend you but this is how I was raised and how I find it to work in my own life. This is JMO!
Sep 08, 2008
sadie
Our 1 year old daughter has silent reflux, hypotonia as well as benign external hydrocephalus. We are currently weaning onto whole milk (we'll see if it works) and she is also on Prevacid 15mg per day.
Amber- I hear ya. I plan to have a talk with him tonight. This happened right after I went to the gym and the guy at the gym was mad at me because I signed up through DH's work program instead of going through the gym and letting the guy get a commission. So he made comments like "So when you're sitting down watching television and eating a big thing of fries you should really just eat something like spinach." Ok well for starters- I never get to watch TV as Keira would either scream or talk so loud that I couldn't get anything out of the program. And second- you don't have to have super sized meals of fries and big macs to gain weight. He also said "how fast do you want to lose the weight?" I said in the healthiest way possible. His reply? "NO the answer was YESTERDAY. ARE YOU EVEN COMMITTED TO THIS?!?" Then he proceeded to say that I can't get a six pack when I have a front tire on my abs. (um thanks- most of my weight is in the back and on my hips not my stomach) I mean the comments kept coming and I was about in tears. SO right after I come home from dealing with a guy that thinks I'll never lose the weight because all overweight people must be lazy and do nothing- then I get to deal w/ my dh throwing out my soda and telling me I can't eat and that I can only have a protein shake. :( It was not a good day yesterday.
Sep 08, 2008
sadie
Our 1 year old daughter has silent reflux, hypotonia as well as benign external hydrocephalus. We are currently weaning onto whole milk (we'll see if it works) and she is also on Prevacid 15mg per day.
I think it's easy for dh to think that there's nothing to losing weight but he has never been overweight. In fact he's usually under weight. He could eat us out of house and home and not gain. If I had the time like he does to go work out for hours every day I'd do it. I love working out- it gives me a great amount of endorphins which I really could use.
Sep 08, 2008
ethan's mom
Meridith, mom to Ethan born 4/23/08. Ethan was diagnosed with reflux at about 1 month. He has been on Zantac (unsuccessful) and Prevacid. He is currently taking 7.5 mg of Prevacid 2x per day, with good results. We also suspect MPI, though this hasn't been confirmed by a doctor yet.
Ethan is mostly breastfed, though we are doing one bottle of soy formula each day. We also do some homeade "solids' including, so far pears, avocado, sweet potato, and peaches.
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I know where you are coming from having 50-60 pounds to lose myself. I really believe that if your hubby understood that part of this weight came from emotional eating related to the stress of PPD, a sick baby, and other health issues, he may be able to see that it will have to come off gradually, with emotional changes coming along with it. I don't mean to sound like you need counseling or something, I just mean that getting out of the house, by yourself and going to the gym will help to relieve stress as well as help your body feel better. Once you get into that routine the diet changes will come with much less effort.
Hang in there, he was probably doing what he would like you to do for him if the situation were reversed. Maybe just explain to him where you are coming from and tell him some ways that you would like to be supported in this.
Sep 08, 2008
mom2halleyann
Donnessa, mom to Halley born 3/10/07
Reflux (mostly) resolved at 14 months
and Addison born 8/17/09. Currently exclusively bf and on 7.5mg Prevacid
Ummm...YEAH, THAT WOULD PISS ME OFF!!! If my dh did that, he'd come home to a kitchen full of Pepsi twelve packs :-). I'm sorry that he chose to *help* you that way.

I don't struggle with my weight as much as some others (thanks, grandpa's DNA), but my eating habits are horrible and with my family history of cardiac problems and diabetes, that is not a good thing at all. I have been taking baby steps as well...am trying to eat more protein and less carbs.

One thing that dh and I have done in the past is go for a walk together each evening before dinner. Now that it's not 150 degrees outside, we'll probably start that up again. What I've found is that when we walk together, we don't have all the distractions (TV, telephone, etc.) and are able to connect a lot better. We really *talk* more in those 30 minutes than we do all day. At the very least, your dh should be as committed to your time to exercise as he is to his.

As for the jack*** at the gym, forget him. Idiots only make themselves feel better by making other people feel bad.

Sep 08, 2008
mom2coy
Coyle Eagan. One Year Old. Doing well on Cow's Milk flavored with juice :) Drinking two bottles of Go&Grow daily. Eating solids better but still have rough days. No More Silent Reflux-that I can hear anyway.. but puking again. Zantac 2ML 2X daily.
okay, my husband is the same way. this is what he used to say: if you want to lose weight you can. it is super easy. when i was in college i could drop 10 pounds in two days. now, mind you, my husband is 150 pounds WET and is built like a truck. he was SUPER athletic (wrestler) and now at 46 still works out every day. he can eat a horse and not gain an ounce. but, he also has a gym @ work. and has the metabolism of an energizer bunny on speed.

most men talk like that and do those things to their wives. my neighbor's dh does it to her as well. so just chalk it up to one of those idiot things that retard husbands do.

as far as the gym guy tho. jerkoff. i'd not go back to that place to be talked to in that manner.

i've always been *chunky* since i was 7. my smallest i was an 8 my largest a 14. (aside from my pregnancy). i gained 24 pounds with coy and i've at least lost that. * i walk everyday* but the 15 I gained after marriage is difficult to lose.. i wish you luck and hope you can find time for yourself. what an a** at the bgy
Sep 08, 2008
mom2adriane&morgan
Adriane Reese 05/16/07; seemingly healthy when born; diagnosed with MSPI, severe Reflux, Apnea, Ashtma, Epilepsy, and severe food allergies(rice, corn, milk, soy, eggs, oats, wheat, beef, chicken, squash, pumpkin, avocado, etc.);On apnea monitor, seems to be tolerating RCF w/carbohydrate mixed in; on Zyrtec, Xopenex, Prevacid
I feel for you. I have the same issue with the weight gain and A is over a year old. I was running 3 miles a day in May before I got pregnant and losing weight and everything. Then I blew out my knee (June) had knee surgery in July, and then got pregnant with Adriane in Aug. I was sick the whole time and miserable. Then when she was born I had PPD along with all of her health issues and I am heavier than I was three weeks after I had her and it just won't come off.

I think if dh did that to me on top of what the guy at the gym said I would not want to do that. I hope this doesn't discourage you from working out and eating right. I know that caffiene is hard to cut out and I would definitely talk to your dh tonight and explain to him your plan. Perhaps if you guys talk about it maybe even write down your goals and a time line for how much pop and sugar and gradually cut it down then that will help both of you. Good Luck! -Amanda

Sep 08, 2008
kmom
Worry Wart mom to
27 mo. reformed "happy spitter"
34.8lbs , 37in tall(oct)
Diagnosed A/R at 6 wks
Zantac until 1yr then Prevacid
Med free since February 08
peanut & egg allergies...still
Zoo Boo Trick-or-Treating (pic).
Sounds like a misguided attempt to "help" you. If there was no malice behind it (no nasty words, pointed stares at your behind as you popped another Pepsi, etc) then I would try to forgive him. HOWEVER, if he IS MEAN and nasty, I would be p*ssed. Either way, if my hubby did that, I'd turkey trot my double wide behind (I am also losing on WW right now) up to the 7-11 and buy myself a case of Pepsi. I don't know if you have bottle deposit there (10 cents here in Michigan) but I'd return the cans, get the change out of the couch, raid the rainy day fund and get me my fix. Nothing more emergency than needing the caffeine! Then, after having sustained myself with the first delicious can, I would nicely tell hubby that, while I appreciate he did this out of love, he should never ever touch the pepsi. Also that if he really wants to help, take a walk with me. That's what I'd do and we'd probably have a huge fight. Soooo, don't listen to me, lol!
Sep 08, 2008
molson1525
Mary & Nicholas 7-17-03 (non-refluxer)allergies, asthma on Singulair and Flovent & Aidan 1-28-07(my refluxer)Nissen Fundoplication on June 20, 2008, FTT, MSPI, DGE, ear tubes, allergies and severe GERD now currently taking just Prevacid and drinking Elecare Vanilla 1+.
As a fellow PCOSer I just wanted to say that you definitely need to go back on the Metformin or all your diet and fitness efforts will be for nothing. Until your hormones are regulated your body will just cling to that weight. I have a feeling once you go on the Met again you will be able to drop 20 pounds easily. I had 50+ pounds to lose after having Aidan and I just finally lost the last few pounds but it has been a long year and a half. I swear within 2 months of going back on the Met I was able to drop 20 pounds without really altering my eating habits. I am an avid exerciser though. I wish you the best of luck in your weight loss journey. Just remember it wasn't put on overnight and it is typically twice as hard to take off. So don't expect results overnight. And your DH was way out of line!
Sep 08, 2008
nicholas'smom
I feel for you. I too have some extra weight to lose-probably about 20-25 lbs. After my first baby-he was such an easy baby-I had time to exercise and less frustration and it came off. This one is very demanding and I always feel as if I'm stressed and even though if I ask to get some exercise, hubby will usually try to let me but makes me feel guilty because the baby is difficult and he'll list off all the things he has to do (which he wasn't doing until I asked to go do something). We also can't afford agym right now-can't afford our house and bills. I don't think he meant any harm by what he did. Men just don't seem to be sensative to the whole women's weight issue. I really think they don't know what to do. I would try to have a calm heart to heart about how it made you feel and how he could better support you in your efforts. Good luck.
Sep 08, 2008
nicholas'smom
Oh yeah-the gym guy-tell him to just (use your imagination)
Sep 08, 2008
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I am 100 pounds over weight. I am an emotional eater. I never had to deal with PPD, but I did deal with antepardum depression. My husband has the same misguided ways of "helping" me lose weight. He likes to show me how easy it is as he is now to thin for his build.
Sep 08, 2008
jenrackley
PAGER Volunteer Services Coordinator
Nutritionist
Melina 7/24/02 now reflux free!!
TWINS:
Ella 5/3/05 GERD, asthma, hypotonia, food intolerances, esophagitis, IBS //
Ava 5/3/05 asthma, food allergies
Pic: My girls! They are getting so big!
OHMY!!! Yes, I woud be mad... and my dh would be in pain. LOL! Sending you ((HUGS)). Sorry he was so insensitive!
Sep 08, 2008
jenrackley
PAGER Volunteer Services Coordinator
Nutritionist
Melina 7/24/02 now reflux free!!
TWINS:
Ella 5/3/05 GERD, asthma, hypotonia, food intolerances, esophagitis, IBS //
Ava 5/3/05 asthma, food allergies
Pic: My girls! They are getting so big!
Geeze! I hadn't gotten to what the gym guy had said. Oh, that would not have ended well if he's have said it to me. Nice customer service that place has!!! You poor thing!!!
Sep 08, 2008
katiesmommy
Tracey, mom to Katie. Diagnosed with reflux at 3 weeks and put on Zantac. At 8 months old she was removed from Zantac as it was giving her migraines, currently on Prevacid. Switched to Elecare since she is not gaining weight; trialing solids after being off for a month. Geneticist said reason she isn't gaining weight is she is stubborn. Upcoming appts.: Neurologist for developmental delay and EGD scheduled for September. She is one funny baby!
Thinking of the expletatives (how do you spell that?) to both the husband and the gym guy!
Sep 09, 2008
elysabethsmom
Sharon, Mom to Elyse, 17 mos (15 mos adjusted-preemie). Zantac/Elecare. History of: Respiratory Distress Syndrome with ventilation/CPAP/cannula, tpn, n/g tube, PDA, jaundice, apnea, bradycardia/tachycardia, severe anemia, blood transfusion, reflux, Sandifer's Syndrome, intestinal malrotation, hemangiomas, MSPI, feeding issues. ICU inpatient 53 days! 2 surgeries, 2 UGIs, barium enema, pH probe, endoscopy. Developmentally on target now! PIC: Yobaby Beard
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My best friend's DH used to talk this way to her; now she is thin so I don't think it happens anymore...but he used to make comments that made me *cringe* and be very self concious around him (still am). it sounds like he was trying to "help" but in a misguided way to quote a pp. I have a bad habit of drinking a soda everyday (usually diet, which is probably worse). i have been doing WW off and on since Dec...when i quit nursing/pumping I really packed on weight quickly so within a month I was on WW. I have lost around 25 lbs since December, so very sloooowly but in a manner that has fit into our lifestyle (we like to eat out, and try new things). I just jumped back on the wagon today after about a 3 week break. I also run at 5am about 3 mornings a week with a group of other moms...I call it my "free gym."

I have experienced nasty comments from personal trainers too. One did a body fat analysis and then told me that to be honest with me, he expected it to be much higher. Then another one was on a cruise ship....we did a tour of the spa which ended with a tour of the gym...the guy was asking how many of us planned to work out during the cruise and no one said anything. Finally he informed us all that we would gain a pound a day and some other crap I can't remember that was really mean....well I was pregnant and super sick, ended up losing weight on the cruise HAHAHA.

Sep 09, 2008
sadie
Our 1 year old daughter has silent reflux, hypotonia as well as benign external hydrocephalus. We are currently weaning onto whole milk (we'll see if it works) and she is also on Prevacid 15mg per day.
Thanks, ladies! Wow 20 responses! Somehow I figured I might get some replys! LOL. I had to wait till dh went to work so I could post again. I'm not sure how I'll bring up the whole subject to dh yet. I know it wasn't malicious but it wasn't helpful either so I plan to (in a nice way) let him know that if he wants to help- he could not complain about watching Keira when I need to go to the gym, grill some meats for me so I can toss them w/ salads for dinner/lunch, help around the house more, ect ect.
Check with your
doctor first!