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Aug 30, 2008
emibug
Kathryn, Pager Volunteer and mommy to Emily Mia 02/04/07. 3 years old with GERD. 30mg Prevacid and Pepcid AC. Mylanta needed for flares. Failed prilosec med switch. Tried and failed many med weans but GERD and pain are well controlled. Functional constipation. Reoccurring SBBO. Suspected IBD or autoimmune disease. Resolved issues: MSPI, CSID (acquired), Stage 2 kidney reflux, Chronic diarrhea.
Audrey Meadow 06/20/08. born 34/35 weeks. Still b/f and eats everything! ftt and chronic constipation.
fits and tantrums i need help!
I am going INSANE!!! I can not stop emily from screaming at me. she now says please when she wants something but if its something she wants but can't have she will scream at me or throw something at me or throw herself on the ground in high pitched screams, tears and wails. if she can't do something it's the same way. i am sick of being bullied by my 1 year old!! i have tried so many things to get her to stop this behavior including ignoring it but it has not changed. does spanking work?? it seems hypocritical to me- i say "don't hit mommy" *spank* and i hit her.... you see what i mean? but if it works to get her to stop screaming at me....

some days i think this behavior is pain related cause some days are better then others but i can't tell i wish i knew if it was or not
Aug 30, 2008
mommyto2
BRANDON-Zantac and Bethanacol; Neocate formula, 2 sets of ear tubes, Adnoids removed, Vasomotor Rhinits, Asthma. Currently on: Xyzal, Omnaris, Flovent and Xopenex,
AUBREY-Zegerid 2x a day, Soy Milk, Tubes put in and adnoids removed (11-7), Hypotonia, ECI therapy for low muscle tone throughout trunk and hips, oral motor issues and sensory integration issues, delayed speech, Teething, probiotics
PICTURE: Aubrey in her cute cat outfit. If you look you can see how her right foot turns in. She walks that way as well. It is not as exaggerated in the morning's but gets worse in the evenings. This was after her nap.
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Let me tell you what worked with us. We had a behavior therapist come out. She gave me an awesome idea. The "mad spot." We have a designated spot in our living room that is padded and where she can't hurt herself when she throws herself down. When she starts behaving in such a manor we simply put her on the mad spot and tell her she can get up when she quite crying. I will admit the first couple of time where kind of rough, but now it is a breeze. She will stay there until she is done and then gets up as if nothing happened. Now if she is in there for throwing something or hitting someone she first has to say she is sorry. If you want any other tips or for me to send you a pic of our mad spot just email me. I LOVE IT!
Aug 30, 2008
elysabethsmom
Sharon, Mom to Elyse, 17 mos (15 mos adjusted-preemie). Zantac/Elecare. History of: Respiratory Distress Syndrome with ventilation/CPAP/cannula, tpn, n/g tube, PDA, jaundice, apnea, bradycardia/tachycardia, severe anemia, blood transfusion, reflux, Sandifer's Syndrome, intestinal malrotation, hemangiomas, MSPI, feeding issues. ICU inpatient 53 days! 2 surgeries, 2 UGIs, barium enema, pH probe, endoscopy. Developmentally on target now! PIC: Yobaby Beard
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I want a pic of the mad spot! We have been dealing with tantrums too, and overall defiance. Like, if we are outside and she wants to go too far from us, she will wave bye at us and take off running. She won't stop, or if she does, it is to smile at us and then keep going. I am considering a swat on the rear for things that are dangerous, such as taking off like that! For throwing/hitting/kicking I get down to her level and look her in the eye and say "no hitting" etc. If she throws an item, she has to pick it up (with help). Elyse's tantrums are now throwing herself on the floor facedown, and gently placing her head on the floor (like she is going to head butt the floor but knows it will hurt so she stops short of it) and then wailing ensues. We ignore it. kat, how long a period have you tried ignoring it? Like do you ignore it everytime for a whole week, or ignore a couple times in one day and then try something different? Since you have tried different things, i am wondering if you try the same thing consistently for awhile if she will get the idea.
Aug 30, 2008
molson1525
Mary & Nicholas 7-17-03 (non-refluxer)allergies, asthma on Singulair and Flovent & Aidan 1-28-07(my refluxer)Nissen Fundoplication on June 20, 2008, FTT, MSPI, DGE, ear tubes, allergies and severe GERD now currently taking just Prevacid and drinking Elecare Vanilla 1+.
Kat-She is probably getting old enough for a time out or like Jen a time out spot. She should be put there for one minute and then reiterate why she was there and then let her go. You could also try just placing her somewhere where she is safe like in her crib for screaming until she calms down. My oldest child could throw a tantrum screaming and kicking for up to 2 hours at that age so I soooo feel your pain. Don't forget to give yourself a time out too. If you have to take little A and go in your room and shut the door for 5 minutes until you can calm down don't feel bad. The tantrums will slowly get better and better as her language develops more and more and she is better able to be reasoned with. Hang in there!
Aug 30, 2008
mom2coy
Coyle Eagan. One Year Old. Doing well on Cow's Milk flavored with juice :) Drinking two bottles of Go&Grow daily. Eating solids better but still have rough days. No More Silent Reflux-that I can hear anyway.. but puking again. Zantac 2ML 2X daily.
what a good idea, a made spot. such great suggestions on here. i'm gonna steal in the near future!

sorry she's been such a pain!
Aug 30, 2008
carmarhal
Adoptive mommy to Micah (Feb 2006), Caleb (Mar 2007; 26 wk preemie, subglottic stenosis, BPD, GERD, dysphagia, FTT, in PT, OT, ST, feeding therapy, 30 mg Prevacid daily, mostly pureed foods, shakes & Pediasure) and Ethan (Feb 2008; 28 wk preemie, BPD, GERD, 15 mg Prevacid daily, Similac Sensitive/Alimentum)
I can tell you what worked for Micah at that age, if we were at home. He learned real quick that if I say, "Do you want to go night-night?" he'd better stop, because I only asked him once. It usually worked, and still does, unless my husband is around, because he'll ask like 10 times, and Micah knows he won't follow through. I'll tell you, from about 15 months until he turned 2, I dreaded taking him anywhere! He loved showing off his tantrum powers to new people in crowded places! Now that he's 2 1/2, he's usually sweet as pie out in public and saves the tantrums for home.
Aug 30, 2008
carmarhal
Adoptive mommy to Micah (Feb 2006), Caleb (Mar 2007; 26 wk preemie, subglottic stenosis, BPD, GERD, dysphagia, FTT, in PT, OT, ST, feeding therapy, 30 mg Prevacid daily, mostly pureed foods, shakes & Pediasure) and Ethan (Feb 2008; 28 wk preemie, BPD, GERD, 15 mg Prevacid daily, Similac Sensitive/Alimentum)
I should clarify: When I put him "night night" for a tantrum, I just put him in his crib until he stopped, and then came in and said, "All done?" and got him out. Now, I just put him in the bedroom and close the door, but we still only leave him in there until he stops. We don't want him to forget why he's in there. We did try time-outs in the corner when he turned 2, but he would never stay put.
Aug 30, 2008
mommyto2
BRANDON-Zantac and Bethanacol; Neocate formula, 2 sets of ear tubes, Adnoids removed, Vasomotor Rhinits, Asthma. Currently on: Xyzal, Omnaris, Flovent and Xopenex,
AUBREY-Zegerid 2x a day, Soy Milk, Tubes put in and adnoids removed (11-7), Hypotonia, ECI therapy for low muscle tone throughout trunk and hips, oral motor issues and sensory integration issues, delayed speech, Teething, probiotics
PICTURE: Aubrey in her cute cat outfit. If you look you can see how her right foot turns in. She walks that way as well. It is not as exaggerated in the morning's but gets worse in the evenings. This was after her nap.
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Time-outs did not work for Aubrey. We did the mad spot b/c (the way it was explained to me) is it teaches her that being upset is an ok emotion, but there is a time and place for it. When she is done w/ her tantrum (and believe me she throws herself on the floor) she can get up. It has worked wonders for us and I know several of our friends who now have a Mad spot (or whatever name you want to give it). We just set her down and look her in the eyes and tell her she can get up when she is done throwing her fit and crying. She does stay there until she is done. We have it in our living room-so I can still see her and make sure she doesn't hurt herself. I will see if I can get a pic up tonight or tomorrow. You will notice the padding b/c she violently throws herself. Gotta love the attitudes!
Aug 30, 2008
momoftwoboys
Kelly, mom of two boys with GERD. John (born 11/03) was on 40mg Nexium til 15 mos old. Second son Brian (born 05/07) started on Zantac. Now on 22.5 mg Prevacid Solutabs plus Carafate 0.5 ml 1 x day
When my older son John got like that around age 1, I would put him in the pack-n-play for a time-out for a minute or two. It was more of a time-out than a mad spot because he couldn't get out himself, I had to lift him out. He had tantrums like that every single day, a few times a day, til he was like 2 1/2. I was sure he had a behavioral disorder because I did not know any other toddler at the time who carried on like that. But we were consistent with putting him in there whenever he threw a tantrum and telling him that tantrums were unacceptable behavior and it did improve.
Aug 30, 2008
mommyto2
BRANDON-Zantac and Bethanacol; Neocate formula, 2 sets of ear tubes, Adnoids removed, Vasomotor Rhinits, Asthma. Currently on: Xyzal, Omnaris, Flovent and Xopenex,
AUBREY-Zegerid 2x a day, Soy Milk, Tubes put in and adnoids removed (11-7), Hypotonia, ECI therapy for low muscle tone throughout trunk and hips, oral motor issues and sensory integration issues, delayed speech, Teething, probiotics
PICTURE: Aubrey in her cute cat outfit. If you look you can see how her right foot turns in. She walks that way as well. It is not as exaggerated in the morning's but gets worse in the evenings. This was after her nap.
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Kelly-I am chuckeling b/c we tried the pack-n-play w/ Aubrey. It took her OT and DT seeing her fits to realize we needed help. I would have to physically restrain Aubrey. If she was in the pack-n-play it would go on for 30min. And I mean all out screaming. Just when you think she was going to calm down and stop-OH NO. She was catching her breath to start all over again. That is how we ended up w/ a behavior therapist. I say whatever works for you and for your child go for it. For some reason the "mad spot" is the ONLY think Aubrey has responded to. The therapist even said she has some kids who will point to their spot and go put themselves in it. Aubrey has only done that once. SOmetimes all we have to do is ask her if she needs to go there and she will shake her head no and stop. But most of the time we simply go and set her there. Wether or not she chooses to throw herself is up to her. But usually she doesn't. We are still working on what to do in public tho...
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