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Aug 28, 2008
michelle&aurora
Aurora born March 17, 2007
3 years, 8 months old
Weighs 25.8 lbs
8 lbs 11 oz at birth.
Recovered Chronic Projectile Vomiter
Prevacid Free since September 08
Egg allergy diagnosed Jan 26/09
Has a Pectus Excavatum
Has an Epipen
HUGE VENT COMING-OT
I am so depressed. Mike and I had a HUGE fight and haven't spoken in 3 days. And it's all over MONEY!! Stupid stupid money!!

I worked for the local phone company as a temp while pregnant for 8 weeks. By the end of my term I was training people. I LOVED this job, but left to have Rory. When my maternity leave was almost up, my boss from the phone company called the temp agency to see if he could get me to go back, but because of Rory's feeding issues I declined. So, he called again last week to see if I was coming back. It worked out beautifully and I was THRILLED I didn't have to do interviews or resumes and could start to work the DAY Rory started daycare PLUS they offered me temp to perm, which means I can get on permanently after a few months. I was very PROUD of myself that they wanted me back after 18 months, kwim? AND permanently.

Mike, on the other hand, is MAD because he thinks I can find something better and that I made no effort and didn't "consult" him on MY decision. I told him my career is not his decision, and he said the phone company IS NOT A CAREER!! I am devastated. It's bad enough I HAVE to go back to work. He's blaming me for so much and saying I make decisions without him, like, about the daycare she's going to and what not. I chose the BEST daycare and it makes me mad that he doesn't have faith in my decisions. I've been so stressed out trying to figure out the best bus routes, lining up all her appts before daycare starts, selling baby stuff to get a cell phone (which he's mad about because I sold the stuff to cheap!) I was just trying to take the stress off of him so he didn't have to worry about money for a phone. He's just mad about the dumbest things and I don't think it's fair that once I think I finally have everything figured out....boom...bursts my bubble. I thought he would be proud that I was going back to work to help support us and now I will get no self-satisfaction or worth from doing so....even though it means leaving my baby.

My baby, who decided she no longer wants to take her prevacid. Two nights in a row.....holding her down, bribing her, biting my fingers....she WON't take it....and it's showing. She didn't sleep last night and is barely eating at all. And if she doesn't eat at daycare, then we're really in for it!!! But I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.

I've made huge sacrifices to remain here and be a family. I have no friends or close family and I just want to go home (4 hours away where I grew up) but it's not even a possibility in Mike's mind. I'd even be happy to move near HIS family....we have no one in the city....no babysitters....no support. And the only thing keeping us here is stupid stupid money. :(

I'm sorry to vent here, but you are my only friends these days. I don't need replies, just an ear. I want my partner to support my decisions and love me and not act like my father, and for him to realize how lucky he is. Sigh. I'm going to take a nap. I lied on the couch with Rory most of the night since I'm not allowed to take her in bed with us.

Aug 28, 2008
michelle&aurora
Aurora born March 17, 2007
3 years, 8 months old
Weighs 25.8 lbs
8 lbs 11 oz at birth.
Recovered Chronic Projectile Vomiter
Prevacid Free since September 08
Egg allergy diagnosed Jan 26/09
Has a Pectus Excavatum
Has an Epipen
PS. I'm so sorry I haven't been around to support you all lately. I'm just in a really bad place at the moment.
Aug 28, 2008
stickybean
I am Jacky, mommy to Joslyn Olivia (April 2008) and Katelyn Isabel (November 2009).
Joslyn was dx'ed with Silent Reflux with breath apnea at 5 days old. VERY SCARY!
Katelyn is a spitter reflux baby. Started at 3 days old as well. (Both were/are breast fed.. symptoms came on when my milk came in).
Joslyn has been reflux free since she was 12 months (suffered poor weight gain for a few months) and Katelyn is now on Zantac... waiting to see if it works.
you need a super sized hug! HUGGGGGGGGG I am sorry you are having a rough time. All I can offer you a is a hug.
Aug 28, 2008
mom2halleyann
Donnessa, mom to Halley born 3/10/07
Reflux (mostly) resolved at 14 months
and Addison born 8/17/09. Currently exclusively bf and on 7.5mg Prevacid
*sigh* Men. I think you're doing a fabulous job. I'm very proud of you of you for taking the initiative to make things better for you and your family. I think the fact that the phone company wanted you back so badly says a lot about you. Mike will come around - his pride is probably smarting a little bit right now...you know how they are, the "lesser" beings LOL! Sending you big hugs.
Aug 28, 2008
jedd'smommy
Jessica, Mommy to Jedd, severe reflux, severe food and oral aversions, Finally G tube free!!! VSD repair 4-24-07 (open heart surgery), hypospadias, repaired 3 times and Ear tubes Visit Jedd at his CB site: www.caringbridge.org/visit/jedd
HUGE HUGE HUGS!!!!! Sounds like you need them I know with DH and I our arguments are stress related. We have never argued alot untiol Jedd was born with all his unexpected issues. It puts alot of stress on a couple. I hope things improve.
Aug 28, 2008
ethan's mom
Meridith, mom to Ethan born 4/23/08. Ethan was diagnosed with reflux at about 1 month. He has been on Zantac (unsuccessful) and Prevacid. He is currently taking 7.5 mg of Prevacid 2x per day, with good results. We also suspect MPI, though this hasn't been confirmed by a doctor yet.
Ethan is mostly breastfed, though we are doing one bottle of soy formula each day. We also do some homeade "solids' including, so far pears, avocado, sweet potato, and peaches.
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I'm so sorry that you are having a tough time. For what its worth, I've read your posts over the last couple of months, and you are very clearly doing a great job with Rory.
Aug 28, 2008
daniejo
Mom (Danie) to Adam (9-4-03) & Nate (3-7-07) Nate was diagnosed with silent AR at 2 months old. He was on neocate, prevacid 30mg per day and couldn't start solids till he was almost 8 months old. He started cow's milk at 14 months and is currently off all meds!! So far so good :) PIC: Disney trip 2008. Nate didn't know Piglet was there, he didn't like the characters too much.
Michelle, I went thru the same exact thing about 2 weeks ago with my dh. I pretty much got a job on the spot at a retail store I shop at (pretty bad that I am on a first name basis with the manager, lol) Well, I was so thrilled. With the economy the way it is here (dh is in the carpentry business) things are tight with $$ for us as well. I told him about it...his response, "why didn't you try to go back to Sam's or Costco so you can make double the $$" He was seriously pissed. He knows the reasons why I don't want to go back to those places, he just doesn't care. I told him SOME $$ is better than NONE...right??? Anyway, he and I are finally on the same page. I know he is not excited about the fact that it would be opposite schedules for us...I think that was the root of our problem.

DH always burst my bubble...no matter what it is. I am like a kid, I get excited about the littlest things and he is so serious. Sorry I just totally babbled about my own personal issues on your post, lol. It was good to hear from you. I have been a bit MIA as well :)

Aug 28, 2008
elysabethsmom
Sharon, Mom to Elyse, 17 mos (15 mos adjusted-preemie). Zantac/Elecare. History of: Respiratory Distress Syndrome with ventilation/CPAP/cannula, tpn, n/g tube, PDA, jaundice, apnea, bradycardia/tachycardia, severe anemia, blood transfusion, reflux, Sandifer's Syndrome, intestinal malrotation, hemangiomas, MSPI, feeding issues. ICU inpatient 53 days! 2 surgeries, 2 UGIs, barium enema, pH probe, endoscopy. Developmentally on target now! PIC: Yobaby Beard
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Elyse went thru a few days where she refused to take her meds too, and it showed too, but then she got over it and started takign them again, hopefully it is just a phase for rory too. I am sorry Mike is not being supportive. Did he offer to help you look at daycares? My DH would never have even thought about helping with something like that, it would have been up to me. Anything about Elyse is up to me. It's nice that Mike wants to be involved I guess but it sounds like he needs to do more himself if he is going to get mad about what you do on your own! What a letdown for you to work so hard setting everything up and then have it blown back in your face! Congrats on getting a job so easily...it's nice to be recognized.
Aug 28, 2008
amber f
You should be proud of yourself for finding a job (you'll like), finding a daycare and making it all evolve around taking the bus. I think Mike is just starting to realize you won't be at home all the time. That can be a scarey thought. Me and my dh argue all the time over me spending time on here and that I'm making friends outside of "our friends". He is starting to get used to it but he felt left out for so long. Now I share some stories about you all and he'll say is that the lo who has this? He just wanted to feel included. Do you think Mike maybe has these same feelings?

I hope that everything works out in the end and that Rory takes her meds and goes back to eating good. My dh pops my bubble to. I was all excited at the possiblitiy of buying a house to use as my daycare and dh just saw the $ signs and told me it won't work. I get an idea and go with it. He doesn't get that.

Sorry now i'm taking over your post. I hope things get better for you soon. Good luck!

Aug 28, 2008
slimfast13
This is our dd, Alessandra. Dx with GER 10/07. Ran the gamut with meds and now done with them (crossed fingers). Using magnesium, probiotics and prebiotic supplements. With the exception of teething and general sassy attitude, all is well now. They really CAN grow out of it!
Is there something in the Y chromosome that makes them decidedly stupid? *note - dripping sarcasm follows*

Multitasking can only involve beer and xbox. their job is always so much harder than ours, and we need to keep up with their needs/wants, and forget ours.

I'm lucky that my dh isn't too bad (other issues, like his mistress "Miranda" the laptop, take precendence). Keeping you in my thoughts and hoping that Mike will come to his senses. BTW - you have a career, it just doesn't pay.

Aug 28, 2008
kmom
Worry Wart mom to
27 mo. reformed "happy spitter"
34.8lbs , 37in tall(oct)
Diagnosed A/R at 6 wks
Zantac until 1yr then Prevacid
Med free since February 08
peanut & egg allergies...still
Zoo Boo Trick-or-Treating (pic).
Sorry that you are in a bad place right now. I think husbands are supposed to burst bubbles. My husband is good at it too. I was all excited about nursing school: I'll make twice as much money and work better hours when I get a job. He said I was irresponsible and I wasn't doing what was best for the family. All because I have to take a year off of work to do it. Hello, I'll make that money back in 2 years! I would support him even if he wanted to quit work and become an artist or whatever. Kills me. Men!
Aug 28, 2008
lauren'smom
Jennifer - 1st time mom. Lauren (6/1/07) diagnosed 9/07 with GER at 3 1/2 months. Prevacid 7.5 mg in the am. Currently drinking whole milk and eating great!!
No longer aspirating! Yippee!
Picture: Why would Lauren play with the hundreds of dollars worth of toys scattered in my living room?!?! When she could play in a box! Estimated move date: Oct. 3rd!
Michelle I am so sorry to hear that Mike's being such a butt head right now. I think what you have done and continue to do for Rory is amazing. I hope Rory takes her prevacid for you too! Big hugs to you!
Aug 28, 2008
mom2coy
Coyle Eagan. One Year Old. Doing well on Cow's Milk flavored with juice :) Drinking two bottles of Go&Grow daily. Eating solids better but still have rough days. No More Silent Reflux-that I can hear anyway.. but puking again. Zantac 2ML 2X daily.
I'm sorry MichellE. Men can be such brats. I understand and am glad you can vent on here! what a self-confindence booster for them to want you back after 18 mo. That means you stuck in their minds for good!

i hope rory starts taking her meds again and will be eating soon...you know, maybe she'll behave well in day care. the kids my mom watched were perfect angels until their mama showed up @ the door...
Aug 28, 2008
raynasmommy
Chris: Mom to Rayna Marie our little miracle born June 13, 2007. 7lbs 12oz. Diagnosed with GERD after ph probe at 5 weeks. Current weight 21lbs 8 oz. Prevacid 8ml in a.m. 2% milk
Michelle, I'm sorry your hubby is being insensitive and stupid. You SHOULD be proud of yourself for accomplishing so much with the obstacles you've overcome. Rory, take your prevacid and quit giving mommy a hard time, you have the rest of your life to do that :o)
Aug 29, 2008
michelle&aurora
Aurora born March 17, 2007
3 years, 8 months old
Weighs 25.8 lbs
8 lbs 11 oz at birth.
Recovered Chronic Projectile Vomiter
Prevacid Free since September 08
Egg allergy diagnosed Jan 26/09
Has a Pectus Excavatum
Has an Epipen
THANK YOU everyone! I'm so glad I can come here and vent and get support. I love you all! Mike and I had a long talk yesterday, tears were shed by both, and we have resolved to face these new changes head on as a team. We've been through alot in the past 18 months, and we've only known each other for 2 1/2 years. He promised to be more....kind....and I've promised to be more open with him. We both feel terrible for subjecting Rory to our immaturity. He swears he loves me and I believe him. He is going to try to show it more and I'm going to try to show him more. HUGE HUGS! I am going to catch up on posts throughout the day when Rory permits me to.
Check with your
doctor first!