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Aug 05, 2008
Mom (Danie) to Adam (9-4-03) & Nate (3-7-07) Nate was diagnosed with silent AR at 2 months old. He was on neocate, prevacid 30mg per day and couldn't start solids till he was almost 8 months old. He started cow's milk at 14 months and is currently off all meds!! So far so good :) PIC: Disney trip 2008. Nate didn't know Piglet was there, he didn't like the characters too much.
need to vent...OT
Guys, I usually don't post about this sort of thing. DH and I are not getting along these days. I am not "bashing" him...I just don't know what to do. He is working out of town a lot and we basically see each other on the weekends. We have Monday's to ourselves, mil watches the boys. We are so up and minute we see eye to eye, the next minute we are criticizing things like who loads the dishwasher the right way.

The one thing that I can't get out of my head that he said to me this weekend is that he thinks I hold and baby Nate too much. Truth is, I know I do. But why...that's what I am trying to figure out myself. Well, I think I know EXACTLY why. He is my last...2 boys was enough for me to get my tubes tied, LOL. I also think I hold him so much b/c when he was a teeny baby, his AR was so bad he wouldn't let me touch him. I had such bad PPD that I actually wanted to "trade him in" and the guilt from feeling that way must have me "making up for it" now. I am by NO MEANS going to "limit" my time holding him. It is quite annoying when I am trying to get the usual household chores done with him crying at my feet.

On to my next vent. I had the eval all set up with First Steps last month for his speech. Well, he got the strep throat and I canceled. I know in my heart that he needs the therapy. I guess since I went thru it with Adam, I just didn't want to go thru it again. I figured I could use all the tips I got from Adam. I feel so stupid calling the program AGAIN and telling them I thought I could work with him myself when in fact, I can't. I can help things but I know he needs a ST. Guess I am having a MAJOR "feel sorry for myself" week. It really doesn't help when family members say "your not going to freak out about him not talking like you did with Adam". Thanks for listening to me felt good to get it out :)

Aug 05, 2008
Mary & Nicholas 7-17-03 (non-refluxer)allergies, asthma on Singulair and Flovent & Aidan 1-28-07(my refluxer)Nissen Fundoplication on June 20, 2008, FTT, MSPI, DGE, ear tubes, allergies and severe GERD now currently taking just Prevacid and drinking Elecare Vanilla 1+.
Hey Girl
Just wanted to say don't feel bad for venting. I really want to write more to you but I am already running late for a long day of doctors appts. I will try to post some about this tonight to you since I have been having some of the same feelings. Hang in there it will get better.
Aug 05, 2008
amber f
Danie~ I'm sorry you have hit a rough patch in your marriage. Is dh still considering finding something closer to home? That has to be so hard. I look forward to my dh coming home at night and doing the bed time routine. I don't think you are babying Nate. Moms have to put up with all the crying, screaming, temper tantrams, fighting with siblings, and whining that when they want to be held you hold them and cuddle them. This is the reward for putting up with all that. To have them hug you back and rest their head on your shoulder is the best part of having a child. They grow up way to soon so I'd take all the cuddles I can get. Then you throw in an AR baby that when they were ity bity they just screamed in your ear that you couldn't cuddle them and couldn't hold them close. Or you were puked on as your reward. So there is nothing wrong with taking advantage of the time. Now if you are still carrying them around and they are in high school you have issues! LOL!

As far as the eval I'd get it done. Then you know what needs to be done and if he qualifies he qualifies and he can get the help he needs. As far as family then you can say well he qualifies for ST so I am not freaking out. I'd love to tell your family if they have nothing supportive to say they shouldn't say anything.

I was just in a funk a couple weeks ago and it really helps to get it out. That and chocolate ice cream! But then that is why I'm so over weight.

(((HUGS))) I hope things get better soon.

Aug 05, 2008
I read somewhere that families can actually have post traumatic stress after a reflux baby. I laughed so hard....I thought now I know why I am still crazy three years later. Seriously, it is so hard dealing with a tough baby. Nobody can understand. Even the most sensitive men can't get it. If I were you I would hug and snuggle as much as I could. I think it is good healing for the both you and your little guy.
Aug 05, 2008
Having kids can be hard on any marriage, and having kids who need extra tlc is even harder. I think we've all felt it to some degree or another. My husband and I just decided to join a bowling league (the in-laws will watch los) one night a week just to have something fun to do as a couple. To be honest bowling is not my thing at al, but I figure we could use the time as a twosome. It will also give us something else to talk about besides the kids and finances(kids are difficult now and finances suck!) As far as feeling bad about venting, that's what we're here for!!!
Aug 05, 2008
amber f
I forgot to add that you can call me when ever you need someone to talk to!!!! I'm here for you! HUGS!
Aug 05, 2008
Donnessa, mom to Halley born 3/10/07
Reflux (mostly) resolved at 14 months
and Addison born 8/17/09. Currently exclusively bf and on 7.5mg Prevacid
Oh, can I relate to this!!! We've had some pretty rough patches too. Sometimes I feel like just giving up, but then dh does something really sweet or I see Halley run up and give him a hug and it makes me hang on another day. I think it's wonderful that you are so loving with your sons. It will pay off hugely as they get older and turn into compassionate men. Keep up the good work :-)
Aug 05, 2008
Sharon, Mom to Elyse, 17 mos (15 mos adjusted-preemie). Zantac/Elecare. History of: Respiratory Distress Syndrome with ventilation/CPAP/cannula, tpn, n/g tube, PDA, jaundice, apnea, bradycardia/tachycardia, severe anemia, blood transfusion, reflux, Sandifer's Syndrome, intestinal malrotation, hemangiomas, MSPI, feeding issues. ICU inpatient 53 days! 2 surgeries, 2 UGIs, barium enema, pH probe, endoscopy. Developmentally on target now! PIC: Yobaby Beard
Hey Danie, i have been "having a rough patch" for 14 mos now!! (Elyse's age). it is not fun!! It is so hard having a kiddo with issues. I agree that you are holding nate a lot bc of not getting to when he was little. elyse still doesn't let us hold her much, she wants us to be down and playing with her constantly or walking around with breaks my heart that she still won't cuddle. I am trying to be nice to DH bc I know I give him a hard time about stuff. For some reason they "don't notice" and "forget" a lot when it comes to helping! email me any time
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