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Jul 14, 2008
maggiemom
Maggie is now 3 years old and reflux free (knock on wood). I still check in some to see how everybody is doing :) Hugs to all!
OT-babbling (guess who)
Hey y'all. Hope you don't mind listening to me whine. I'm feeling overwhelmed. I guess that's what you'd call it. Dh has been home for 2 weeks and I'm sad. He's going back to work tomorrow. That means back to the same old stuff and what makes me even sadder is that I know my time as a sahm is dwindling. I will be an official full-time working mom in two weeks. I'm so scared for Maggie and me too honestly. I'm trying to be "strong" but my heart is breaking. I'm lucky to have been home with her this long, but we're both gonna have a major adjustment to get through. I told dh I'd love to take her out of her class and spend my lunch hour with her, but we figure that would make it harder on her. Maybe we can do that when she's older and used to the routine.

I guess I need some encouragement from working moms that it will be ok. I know in my head that it will actually probably be great, but my heart just doesn't get it. I watch all the cute things she does and think how much I'm gonna miss so much. She's really starting to blossom now and I won't be there with her.

Today outside I looked around and she was hugging dh. She was just laying her head on his shoulder and not making a sound. I walked to her and asked what's wrong. She came to me slowly and sadly and said "Bee...Bee". Dh said a bee had been flying around. It must've scared her. It was just so stinkin cute.

I guess she is old enough to know that we're here and will not leave her. She will get used to the new routine quickly I hope.

I keep telling myself how good it will be for both of us and how it'll be great to pay off the bills and have some savings again.

Thanks if you read all this. Hugs to all of you!

Jul 14, 2008
baby quinn's mommy
Mom to a 3 year old baby girl with severe reflux: g-tube, nissen fundoplication. dx: RAD, failure to thrive, DGE, epilepsy, sleep apnea, paraesohphogeal hernia, high lactic acid there's more "unknown disease"... Hospitalized 12 times, PT graduate! ST graduate! OT graduate! Current Meds: singulair, zopeonex, pulmicort, reglan, Keppra, Trileptal, vitamin B6, Veramyst. Current weight: 34 lb. Current height: 39". g-tube dependent, oxygen 1-2LpM all day and night PIC: Ms. Quinn
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Aw Melissa, I can understand you pain! None of us want to leave our children in the care of others for such a long time. But you are looking at it in a good way. she will have the opportunity to interact with others, build up her social and problem solving skills and her immunity. She will be ready for preschool and Kindergarten. As for you, I am not sure if you will ever be ready to let go. It is a mother thing. we want to be with them to see all their milestones and neat little things they do. you will see them too. And you will get to pick her up at the end of the day and receive that HUGE "I missed you mommy" hug and you will be able to see all the neat arts and crafts that she made just for you as a surprise! It will be ok. Now i don't know what we are going to do without you around here so much. -Sarah
Jul 15, 2008
mollybeth
Cooper was born 12/19/07. Birth weight: 7lbs10oz. Weight as of 2/11: 8lbs9oz. 6/23: 14lbs12oz! Struggling again 12mo: 18lbs. Breast Fed exclusively, on strict elimination diet until Dec 08. MSPI as well as other food intolerances Diagnosed w/ GER at 5 days following barium swallow. Choking with apnea spells. Ftt. dx w/ Laryngomalacia following brochoscopy 1/29. Aspiration. apnea monitor until 5mo. pH probe 1/29 showed severe reflux. Sandifers Syndrome. lbrady and tackycardia. echo and EKG 2/18: Came back normal! Swallow study 2/29: some NG reflux. Unexplained seizure 4/1. Negative CF sweat test 4/4! EGD 11/19: reflux damage in esophagus. pH probe 11/19, reflux improved. Safe foods: pears, apples, peas, rice, small amounts of chicken, potatoes, and carrots.
Currently drinking Elecare vanilla 30cal/oz and breastmilk.
Meds: Nexium 10mg 2x daily. Carafate as needed, miralaxx as needed, probiotics daily
I'm so sorry that your sad. I don't know what it must be like, but it doesn't make you any less of a great mom. Big Hugs!!!
Jul 15, 2008
elysabethsmom
Sharon, Mom to Elyse, 17 mos (15 mos adjusted-preemie). Zantac/Elecare. History of: Respiratory Distress Syndrome with ventilation/CPAP/cannula, tpn, n/g tube, PDA, jaundice, apnea, bradycardia/tachycardia, severe anemia, blood transfusion, reflux, Sandifer's Syndrome, intestinal malrotation, hemangiomas, MSPI, feeding issues. ICU inpatient 53 days! 2 surgeries, 2 UGIs, barium enema, pH probe, endoscopy. Developmentally on target now! PIC: Yobaby Beard
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Hi melissa, i know what you mean. i have the "luxury" right now of working part time (21 hours a week) and even that makes me feel guilty. But DH cannot provide for us on his own, and I am blessed to only have to work halftime right now (may change when he gets laid off!). I make sure that I spend good quality time with her every day, doign things that will enrich her mind and language skills, and also her emotional being. She knows she is loved and so will mags. Just make sure that the time you get to be with her is quality, which is better than quantity anyway. :) Will you get school holidays off?
Jul 15, 2008
amber f
Sarah is right nothing beats the running to hug mommy at the end of the day. I really miss that! You'll do fine. Mags will adjust fast, you'll see.
Jul 15, 2008
daniejo
Mom (Danie) to Adam (9-4-03) & Nate (3-7-07) Nate was diagnosed with silent AR at 2 months old. He was on neocate, prevacid 30mg per day and couldn't start solids till he was almost 8 months old. He started cow's milk at 14 months and is currently off all meds!! So far so good :) PIC: Disney trip 2008. Nate didn't know Piglet was there, he didn't like the characters too much.
Well, my experience is a bit different...but kinda the same. I put Adam in early education school at about 2 1/2 yrs old. Looking back, I wish I could have sent him earlier. He went 3 days a week. I did not go to work, I just helped dh with his business. It was the best thing we ever did. He learned to socialize...something Adam was really lacking. He was also a very late talker...he started talking sooooo much after starting school. It was amazing. Don't look at it like you will "miss" all of the new things she is doing...it will be so exciting to see her so proud to show you first!!!! Adam would show me everything he learned as soon as I picked him up.

BTW-my mil thought she would pop in for a visit with him one day. Was he happy to see her?? Well of course...it's what happened AFTER she left. I had to go and pick him up...he was soo upset. I think that letting her get used to the routine is a great idea. It might be harder on both of you if you eat lunch with her and have to say goodbye twice in one day, kwim? Just don't forget about all of us here :) We will miss you!

Jul 15, 2008
mdbarbagallo
Melissa - Mommy to Sebastian, born 9/28/07 @ 7 lbs 7 oz and 20.75 in. At docs at 12 months: 27 pounds and 32 in! Good grief! GERD - currently on Prevacid suspension (liquid equivalent of 45 mg a day). Allergic to dairy, soy, eggs, wheat, all treenuts, peanuts, fish, shellfish, peas, sesame, bananas, barley, coconut, dust, dust mite, dog, cat, latex. Seasonal allergies. Oral Allergy Syndrome (OAS). Neocate only - no solids - until further notice (drinks and loves water, too). Loves his doggie, our rescued Treeing Walker Coonhound, Louise, even though he is allergic to her. Louise will make your doctor a homemade pie if you would like her to. PHOTO: We couldn't do a cake on Sebastian's birthday, but that didn't stop him from tossing around the contents of a big bowl of popcorn! He now tries to eat it when we play with popcorn, so no more of that game.... :(
Ugh...I am so sorry. I can barely handle leaving Sebastian for a half hour while I run, so I am definitely not the one to be doling out advice. I am sure your little Mags will adjust quickly, though - probably faster than you will. and I bet that was so cute to see her and your man like that.

By the way - did you ever get her a computer? I just bought Sebastian this one off of clearance ($25) from Toys R Us. It's Fisher Price. It fits right over the regular keyboard and has an interactive CD that has games for ages 9 months to 3 years. Sebastian is apparnetly too young and just chucks it on the floor, but I bet MAgs is mature enough for it! Here's the link: http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2658698
Jul 15, 2008
lauren'smom
Jennifer - 1st time mom. Lauren (6/1/07) diagnosed 9/07 with GER at 3 1/2 months. Prevacid 7.5 mg in the am. Currently drinking whole milk and eating great!!
No longer aspirating! Yippee!
Picture: Why would Lauren play with the hundreds of dollars worth of toys scattered in my living room?!?! When she could play in a box! Estimated move date: Oct. 3rd!
Melissa, she will adjust super fast, I promise. So will you, it took me longer than Lauren! I too am worried about leaving Lauren next month when I have to go back to teaching because we have been together for the last few weeks. It's sad, it's hard, but it can be very worthwhile too! I left Lauren when she was 7 months old and I felt just like you do -- I am going to miss soooo much! She was just starting to be engaging at that point. By June when school was out she would be playing on the floor with the other kids when I arrived and come crawling to me! After I gave her a hug/kiss in the AM she'd take right off to go play with the other kids. She is going to get a lot of valuable things by being with other kids and getting that social interaction! Before you know it she'll be babbling away to you in the car on the way home telling you of her adventures! I wish you the best, try and stay strong!!!

PS: did you ever hear anything about the elementary job you applied for?

Jul 15, 2008
mom2halleyann
Donnessa, mom to Halley born 3/10/07
Reflux (mostly) resolved at 14 months
and Addison born 8/17/09. Currently exclusively bf and on 7.5mg Prevacid
Melissa, I agree with everything the others have said. I love, love, love the big smile and hug that I get when I pick Halley up - it's one of the highlights of my day. Maggie will adjust very quickly to the routine and will enjoy hanging out with the other kids her age. The first few days may be a little hard, but you'll both adjust faster than you think. (((big hugs)))
Jul 15, 2008
maggiemom
Maggie is now 3 years old and reflux free (knock on wood). I still check in some to see how everybody is doing :) Hugs to all!
Again, this is why I love y'all so much :) I know everything you're saying is true, it just makes it better hearing it from moms that have been there and moms that understand the heartstrings.

I am looking forward to the "I've missed you mom" hugs and kisses. I've never gotten that. Dh gets it every day, so that'll be nice.

I haven't heard a thing from the elem. school. She's dragging her feet big time. If she doesn't hurry up, I'm gonna be too far into this job to turn it down.---maybe :)

You're right Danie...lunch isn't a good idea. ;(

Melissa-I'm gonna check out the computer thing. I haven't done any shopping lately. Thanks!

Jul 15, 2008
katiesmommy
Tracey, mom to Katie diagnosed with GERD at 3 week.
Don't have any words of advice! I hope it all goes smoothly for all 4 of you!!! Hugs to you all!
Jul 16, 2008
azmom
Mom to Ian, 3/1/07
Used Zantac - 1.0 ml twice a day
Weaned at 1 year
Back on Zantac at 15 months
I can relate. I went back to work when Ian was 5 months old! I'm a teacher, so I've had a few month with him, but we go back in a few weeks. It's going to be really hard. Do you get personal days off? I try to take one a month for a baby fix. It really makes you appreciate the weekends. It will be harder for you than for her. She'll be learning a ton and meeting new friends. It's definitely a growing experience for you both! Good luck...
Jul 17, 2008
maggiemom
Maggie is now 3 years old and reflux free (knock on wood). I still check in some to see how everybody is doing :) Hugs to all!
Thanks Azmom! I will get 3 days after I've worked 90 days. I will probably save those though. We'll see. Thanks for the encouragement.
Check with your
doctor first!