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Jul 01, 2008
seamus' mama
Seamus was born 7/6/07, one month early with Silent Reflux. Zantac since 3 weeks old, currently taking herbs and probiotics.
OOPS I deviated from CIO
Hi there Well, things were pretty exiting after a full night of sleep after 2 nights of CIO. The next night Seamus woke up 4 times and cried 10 minutes which isnt TOO bad. BUT last night, he cried and I peeked in to see his blankie wrapped around his face.He was really freaking out..I removed the blankie and tried to verbally console him but he totally went wild with me right there. I gave in and nursed him and it felt really nice....When he was asleep I place him on the crib mattress..He totally freaked out and I decided to let him cry while I lay on our bed which is next to his crib. He hated me for it and shrieked" Mama! Mama" He was reaching out for me and I was pretending to sleep while verbally soothing him every 5 minutes. It was total hell..After 30 minutes I gave in and nursed. I couldnt help it. My husband has been so deeply depressed that he is not there for me emotionally. All day long I hear my dh's woes and then come night the baby's cries. It is a lot to deal with.So, I ended up being really naughty and letting Seamus sleep in my arms. He only woke up 3 times to suck at milk. It was really comforting for me to comfort him...Anyhow, here we are with a new night to come. Seamus is petrified of the crib and hesitates falling asleep in the rocking chair. It used to be fast but now I wonder if he associates rocking with being tossed in a crib to cry. I don't know quite what to do.. I know, I know. Listen to my heart...But we all need more sleep..I just hope that Seamus can have more of a positive association with the crib and falling asleep because right now hen he wakes up he freaks out.In our bed he wakes up and whimpers but in the crib he wails. It is sooo hard doing this. I am such a sensitive person and I have been facing so much with my hubbie lately that it makes evenings even harder..Uggh..I feel like maybe I need to slow down, take the side off the crib and ease him into liking it..I am in a society where we want instant gratification and when it comes to sleeping we all want it! Seamus has been sooo grouchy ever since we started sleep training. I feel like he isnt himself and I hope he still has trust in us. He seems more withdrawn and is actually faking sleep..He will lie down on the ground with his butt in the air and giggle, like he's messing with us..If anyone has ideas I will be joyful...Hope you all sleep tonight!
Jul 01, 2008
This is our dd, Alessandra. Dx with GER 10/07. Ran the gamut with meds and now done with them (crossed fingers). Using magnesium, probiotics and prebiotic supplements. With the exception of teething and general sassy attitude, all is well now. They really CAN grow out of it!
We went through this, and still are to a degree. I was petrified of Allie associating her crib with freak-out time. It still happens, though not as often now. Even though it kills us to listen to it, crying tends to let out what I call "the nasties." Sometimes we put her in a jumper and let her jump them out until she's dropping over. More and more often she will just stick her thumb in her mouth and go down, even though we do still have shrieking for a few minutes just about every night. It gets better, mama!!!
Jul 01, 2008
Andrea: Mom to 3 crazy girls!
Jackie (3/01)
Payton (9/03)
Abby (4/06) Prevacid 7.5mg (evening), MSPI, goats milk (currently trying to wean off Prevacid)
We have all been there and gave in so don't feel bad. But I can image that it has to be 100x's worse since he is in the room with you guys. Have you thought about just going ahead and moving him into his own room? Get a good video monitor ( I loving having one!) so that you can keep an eye on him in his crib. I perfer the method like you did before (I think) about going in and consoling them (not picking them up) for a minute or so then leaving and then doubling the amount of time for the next time. We did this with my oldest at 7 months when she still wasn't sleeping through. But you really have to stick with the no nursing to sleep or it just won't work. He then just figure out how many times it takes before he gets what he wants. I know it is really hard. Hang in there! Also, we have a Fisher Price music toy on the side of Abby's crib. So if she wakes she hits this and it plays for 10mins then turns off. We also put this on when we lay her down. I don't know if something like this would be helpful. Also, make sure that he isn't overtired when you lay him down. If he is OT it will make the sleep training way worse. HUGS!
Jul 01, 2008
seamus' mama
Seamus was born 7/6/07, one month early with Silent Reflux. Zantac since 3 weeks old, currently taking herbs and probiotics.
Hi. Well, the houseguests are coming in 2 days so we've decided not to do more CIO until they are gone. As for now, we are going to try to get him to be more comfortable with the crib by taking a side of it off and placing against our bed. Dh has been really really depressed and Seamus' crying makes it worse for him.. I am emotionally exhausted from having both guys in my family upset for 5 nights and days. At least we did it for 5 nights and Seamus is no longer waking up every hour! I feel like we've made progress but we have to take a break due to 4 houseguests and Dh's depression...Hopefully Seamus won't go back to waking up every hour. Ughh.Thanks for the support..I'll keep y'all posted.
Jul 01, 2008
Maggie is now 3 years old and reflux free (knock on wood). I still check in some to see how everybody is doing :) Hugs to all!
I think that makes sense. why go through those nights just to have it reversed by guests. You'll get there...I promise. Hugs!
Jul 01, 2008
Cooper was born 12/19/07. Birth weight: 7lbs10oz. Weight as of 2/11: 8lbs9oz. 6/23: 14lbs12oz! Struggling again 12mo: 18lbs. Breast Fed exclusively, on strict elimination diet until Dec 08. MSPI as well as other food intolerances Diagnosed w/ GER at 5 days following barium swallow. Choking with apnea spells. Ftt. dx w/ Laryngomalacia following brochoscopy 1/29. Aspiration. apnea monitor until 5mo. pH probe 1/29 showed severe reflux. Sandifers Syndrome. lbrady and tackycardia. echo and EKG 2/18: Came back normal! Swallow study 2/29: some NG reflux. Unexplained seizure 4/1. Negative CF sweat test 4/4! EGD 11/19: reflux damage in esophagus. pH probe 11/19, reflux improved. Safe foods: pears, apples, peas, rice, small amounts of chicken, potatoes, and carrots.
Currently drinking Elecare vanilla 30cal/oz and breastmilk.
Meds: Nexium 10mg 2x daily. Carafate as needed, miralaxx as needed, probiotics daily
Goodness, I am so sorry. Night time parenting is a job no one can prepare you for. Of course you need your sleep, esp if your having issues w/ you dh. Sorry he is struggling right now too. Mental illness (whatever the form) effects everyone around so intensely. I don't have allot of advice for you. I'm pretty sure, just from getting to know you through other posts, that we have very similar parenting styles. So, whatever I tell you, you've probably already read/heard. The one thing I will say is that if you find comfort in the nursing, you should do it. Don't do it if it is causing any sort of resentment. If Cooper has been away from me for a while and I get him back and nurse him, it is so delightful. There is something so peaceful about meeting your child's needs in that way. I think that your plan of easing him into it is great. You have to do what feels right for everyone. And it may take you guys longer that others, but it will happen. You are doing a great job and are a wonderful mom and wife! Hang in there.
Jul 02, 2008
Lorenzo b.4/25/07 1 week in NICU w/ aspirate pneumonia from a reflux episode; diagnosed GERD at 9weeks; Used Zantac for 5months. Currently using Chinese Medicine and Craniosacral Therapy. GERD, Obstructive Sleep Apnea, Sensory Processing Disorder. Ask me about breastfeeding a refluxer! Pic: day 5 in the NICU.
Oh Mama ((HUGS)) -- email me at if you get a chance...I have so been right where you are right now, and while I have no quick fix for you, I do have some advice and tons of support to offer for your situation. Here's a link someone just sent to me today -- I haven't explored it very thoroughly, but it looks somewhat interesting. Do email me though, because I have had the same sleep issues/dh issues.... Big hugs, and hang in there...this too shall pass.... Cristina
Jul 02, 2008
Mom (Danie) to Adam (9-4-03) & Nate (3-7-07) Nate was diagnosed with silent AR at 2 months old. He was on neocate, prevacid 30mg per day and couldn't start solids till he was almost 8 months old. He started cow's milk at 14 months and is currently off all meds!! So far so good :) PIC: Disney trip 2008. Nate didn't know Piglet was there, he didn't like the characters too much.
UGH...we are here for your support. One thing I have come to find out...every singel one of us here do different things to get our lo's to STTN. We all have our lil "tricks" and our limit of how long we hear them cry.

I will say...I am quite jealous that I didn't BF my boys. When I read your post about it comforting you to comfort him, I got teary eyed. I will never know what that kind of bond feels like.

Nate slept in a cradle in his own room with me in the bed next to him. He was about 4 months old when I transitioned him to the crib. It was hard. When we decided to do CIO, he was about 8-9 months old. I can finally say...unless there is an illness, he sleeps so nice now. He is almost 16 months and I can fall asleep now WITHOUT thining, how much sleep can I get in before he is gonna scream for me again!! Sorry I have no advice for you, I am just here to support you thru this rough time :)

Jul 02, 2008
Melissa - Mommy to Sebastian, born 9/28/07 @ 7 lbs 7 oz and 20.75 in. At docs at 12 months: 27 pounds and 32 in! Good grief! GERD - currently on Prevacid suspension (liquid equivalent of 45 mg a day). Allergic to dairy, soy, eggs, wheat, all treenuts, peanuts, fish, shellfish, peas, sesame, bananas, barley, coconut, dust, dust mite, dog, cat, latex. Seasonal allergies. Oral Allergy Syndrome (OAS). Neocate only - no solids - until further notice (drinks and loves water, too). Loves his doggie, our rescued Treeing Walker Coonhound, Louise, even though he is allergic to her. Louise will make your doctor a homemade pie if you would like her to. PHOTO: We couldn't do a cake on Sebastian's birthday, but that didn't stop him from tossing around the contents of a big bowl of popcorn! He now tries to eat it when we play with popcorn, so no more of that game.... :(
Sigh...CIO is HARD. We are still dealing with sleep regressions here and there with Sebastian, but we are getting through them. He used to be scared of his crib, too (or rather, what it represented), so we started maknig sure he got lots of happy time in it. We still do this to this day: we go in and cheerfully say "Good morning!!" to him, and then we give him a big hug...while he stays in his crib. Then we talk to him and toss in someof his favorite toys. We also switch on his Aquarium for him (the power button on the back...he can turn it on/off himself on the front). Then we fold laundry or something for a few minutes while we talk and sing to him. He is VERY happy. We put him in and do the same thing before his bath and sometimes before his naps. No more bad associations!

I can totally understand why you need to abandon it for a while if you don't have your husband's help. There is no way I could have done it by myself. Usually, we can put him down and just hang out next to the crib now until he falls asleep with NO crying (about 65% of the time), but when he starts playing or otherwise fighting sleep, I leave the house and take the dog for a run while my husband deals with it. I still can't handle the screams.

I can tell you this, though. When we abandoned CIO for a while, Sebastian slipped RIGHT back into his old habits after about three days...and we had to start all over again. NOT fun. I hope this doesn't happen with Seamus.

Well, I hope things get a little easier around your house. I'm sorry you have so much crap to deal with. Enjoy your house guests, though!!
Jul 02, 2008
Mom to Jasmine aka: Jazz 01/24/2007
Dx with silent reflux at 8 months
FPIES, DGE, MSPI. Recently diagnosed with EC (Eosin. colitis and now Primary immune deficiency disease.
Also mom to Nathan. born Jan.20th, 2009, MPI . so far dx with reflux and has an extremely sensitibe GI system. Also dx with primary immune deficiency disease.
I'm sorry that this is so hard for you. I know what you mean about it being nice to be able to comfort them. With Jazz, we tried to play a bit when she was in her crib during the day....just for a few minutes. We'd play peek-a-boo or whatever. It didn't work that well with her to be honest, but at least she didn't totally freak out when I put her in there....I don't want to overstep myself here, but I can only imagine that you are feeling totally alone without your DH support. Is there anything that he is doing to help himself out of the depression? I don't want to pry, just want to help.
Check with your
doctor first!